I have a friend who suffered with depression for many years and therefore?

Question

classed as having mental health problems ( in my opinion this is wrong). I would like to know that from your own observation of someone who did or does suffer from depression get blamed when things go wrong in a relationship.

I ask this as I see this happening with my friend who is such a likeable and ameniable person and tries hard to make recompense for her having had depression. Her partner seems to revel in apportioning blame on her shoulders when they go through a sticky patch (as we all do from time to time).

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I do appreciate that it must be difficult for someone who's partner had or has problems with depression.

Answer 1

obviously her partner is an A**hole, it's hard enough being depressed and blaming oneself, but having a supposed loved one hammering you-it would make me think-get rid of the partner, get rid of at least 1/2-3/4 of the problem. If she does that-it would be great.

Answer 2

Her partner should be supportive of her instead of blaming her when things go wrong.  It seems obvious to me that he doesn't care about her and is being a sh*thead.

He needs to be a man and support his woman... She needs his support and not criticism or blame.

Answer 3

Of course they do. Its the general view on a mental illness. people always blame the one who has a medical diagnoses opposed to the one that is being the total as*hole most times.