I have a major issue..?

Question

I have a cutting problem. I cut to release pain. I have a therapist, I take medications. I talk to my therapist openly, but none of it helps. I've tried many different medications but none have helped much. I promised my ex that I would try to stop cutting. But I can't it's really hard for me to stop. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Whenever I get sad I cut. Whenever I get mad, I cut. HELP!!! What should I do?

Answer 1

OK I was once a a cutter too so i know what you are going threw sometimes you may want to think about checking yourself into a mental health facility for that and another thing you might want to do is look for a different psychiatrist because if his way of treatment dose not work then another one well or might work

the thing most people do not understand is when you cut because you are mad or sad you are letting out endorphins  

Answer 2

The fact that you are asking for help suggests that you actually want to find an answer to this problem. I would say the first thing to do is to stop but seeing as you've tried I can only say try harder. What do your parents, friends and doctor's think of this issue? Maybe you've been misdiagnosed. A lot of mental help problems are caused my a chemical imbalance in the brain. If you've been misdiagnosed then perhaps the wrong chemicals are being altered. Talk to your doctor and therapist again. If they can not help you ask them for centers near by that can help. The thing is this isn't something that you can just leave until it goes away. True, most of these problems occur in young adolescents but you are suicidal. There is no nice way of putting it. If you don't seek help now you may not be able to later.

Remind yourself over and over that you are in control. You are the one controlling your actions and choosing to cut yourself. So ask yourself if you want this to end? I think you know the answer to that. And if it is the answer I think it is then get out of your room or your bathroom and call up a friend. Find a friend that you can count on no matter what. Whenever you feel bad or lonely call them. If they're not there have a fall back plan. Just get out of your house and get away, go for a run, bike ride anything. Just clear your head until those emotions pass.

Good luck.  

Answer 3

I use to cut. I do understand. The only way I stopped is if I felt like cutting and I have someone around I stop myself long enough to find whoever is around and tell them what I am about to do and why. This usually helps me to release whatever is making me mad. Good Luck Hun!

Answer 4

i had the samee problem.

and u know wut happened to me!? ..

my friendsz told a teacher, and then the principal got involved. and then the copsz got involved.and the questioned my mom, u know, askin y i did it....

i dont think u wnt tht to happen to sum1 u love.

so i suggest u stop it.

much love  (:  

Answer 5

How much do you talk to your therapist about this? To stop doing it you need to understand what you get out of doing it and how to love yourself enough to find a different way to get the feeling you get from cutting (whether it's a sense of control or punishment or release or whatever it is)

Talk it through with your therapist and if you can understand your trigger and the purpose you might be able to replace it with a more healthy behaviour.

For me I used to hurt myself in different ways than cutting and it was about feeling that I had control over that at least. I got the the bottom of it and I'm replacing it with a work out - every time I want to hurt myself I do 2 hours in the gym and sweat it all out of my system. I manager to get some hard exercise DVD's  so  even at 2 in the morning I can work out if I need to...

Good luck - remember to love yourself

Answer 6

what are you in pain about? The cutting elps the anguish but you have to get to the root of it?

Answer 7

You need support and help. Make an appointment with your GP.

Take care of yourself.

Answer 8

some answers are not helpful atall and im sure being told why don't you have s*x instead it would be more fun must be very frustrating and im sure the police wont get involved and try to prosecute your mum if you have clearly been seeking help, the therapies you have used are well established and the usual path, but would you consider more controversial and new therapies. Today lots of docotors are trying and testing new therapies that may not have been proven but have a good track record, for example things such as sufferers of ocd have cured by courses on how to control their mind, and anorexics have been instantly cured by working out how to tap themselves i  different places i know it sounds mad but it could be worth a try asking your GP about alternative therapies if the ones you are using arent working for you. or maybe try something like acupuncture,chinese medicine etc, if you live in a country where you have to pay for healthcare then you may also get this treatment at a reduced rate as it hasnt been proven x

Answer 9

Do you want to stop? Never mind what your ex and family and friends and therapist want. Are YOU ready to stop? Because if you really aren't, then you need to be open with your therapist about that and talk about whether you can agree to a safety plan for the time between now and when you are ready. In the meantime, you can try to reduce the risks from cutting by:

1) Choosing the times you REALLY need to cut, rather than the times you're just doing it by habit, and only doing it then

2) Talking to your doctor about what part of your body you are cutting, and making sure that it's on the least vulnerable parts of your body (least likely to cause you to bleed to death, etc).

3) Making sure you have a first aid kit on hand just in case

4) Making sure you are sterilizing whatever it is you're using to cut yourself and cleaning your wounds after

Try The 15 Minute Rule: Try to wait 15 minutes once you feel the urge to cut. If you still feel that you need to do it after 15 minutes, give yourself permission.

I don't think that cutting is a great long-term coping strategy. I think you need to find a psychiatrist/therapist who really specializes in working with people who cut and you need to (eventually and gradually) learn new ways to cope. Group therapy can also be really helpful for this. If you can learn to manage whatever is going on inside, you will find that you need to cut less and less, and someday, maybe not at all.

In the meantime, be as safe as you can, and try to be a bit more forgiving with yourself. Your long-term goal is to stop cutting. You're short-term goal is to keep yourself alive and healthy (no infections or accidental major injuries) until you can. Putting a lot of pressure on yourself and being weighed down with guilt for "failing" at stopping is likely to have you cutting more, not less. When you are ready to stop, you will. Just hang in there.

Answer 10

Remove all sharp objects from your home.  When your feeling stressed instead of cutting just head butt a wall.  Your body will only allow a certain amount of this treatment being that you will knock yourself out eventually.  When you are unconcious you will not be able to inflict any pain.  Sounds like a win win situation to me!

Answer 11

isn't it more painful when you cut? you know, don't you realize that after cutting the problem is still there? no matter what you do the problem always occur. therapists don't always understand one's problem..i discovered that. before when im new to this whole world of MENTAL sickness when i know nothing about this and the first time i met a psychiatrist i thought that they would understand me i thought that they are the one's whose gonna my problem but they don't! i realized that after meeting a number of psychologist/psychiatrists. at first i thought oh naah i guess i went to the wrong psych then i changed again and again and again i am losing hope every after i meet a new psych but then i realized that i forgot.. i remember when im still normal (but im still normal. haha.) when all i know is to have fun and no seriousness in life i don't understand people who experience this ****. i mean why?! why do these people cut?! why do people commit suicide?! don't they know that there's always an answer to they're problem? ... that was before..

now i understand why.. why people commit suicide, why people cut, why some act so strange and why people have very low self esteem i understand now.. because i myself is experiencing that ****. (but i won't commit suicide and i wont cut. im scared. haha) sometimes.. what a person needs is open mindedness.. haha sorry if am not helping.. but anyway.. all i can say is... actually i dont know what to say.. i dont wanna say just stop cutting or you must realize things on your own for it won't help.. so.. god bless!  

Answer 12

Keep yourself out of the way of any razors or sharp objects. use the crisis help line when you get this way, and see a councelor