I have a major problem with this girl. please help. deppressed.

Question

i love this girl too much.. shes 23 and im 18 and we work together. she calls me her little bro and i call her my big sis. we are good friends and laugh and have fun everytime im around her.the problem is i love her so much. im not telling her i have extra feelings for her. at least not until i go to the air force because i know she would say no to dating or whatever. i just cant think of any other girls. when i think of girls or losing my virginity someday or anything related i think about her and i know shes not thinking about me in that way and i feel a horrible sense of longing.i want to find a way to not feel like this but still be great friends with her. shes awesome. but i dont know how to deal with her being the coolest girl i know and the only one that cares about me like she does. as you can se im confused lol and i just dont want this to get out of control. help would be appreciated.

Answer 1

maybe she does feel that way and you don't know it.. My niece married her best friend. They were great friends and hang around together and everything..Then one day something just clicked and they got married..Talk to her, ask her if she would like to consider going out on a date see how it works..If you wait til you leave you want get to date her..don't loose her if you really want her..

Answer 2

you must confront your fear.Be absolutely blunt and direct and tell her you like her and you want to be her man, set a clear  ultimatum, either she can accept you or cut off the relationship. Do not be contempt to be the "friend in a bottle" her life is moving forward and yours is on standby because of this. Embrace the freedom of knowing the truth and be able to move on with life if she does not have feelings for you. If she does accept you, then the advantage will be for you , you win whatever the outcome.

Answer 3

Maybe just hang out with her a bit and have conversations with her. after a while have deeper conversations with her and ask her if she wants to be more than friends.

Hope i helped Good luck! Hope you two go out . Sounds like you really like her!

Answer 4

Been there, done that.

What you're describing is a crush, and if it's your first major one (or even if you are in your 30's) they're difficult.

She may like you a lot - but rather get into the formal "would you like to go out on a date next Friday" kind of thing, just, maybe, ask her if she likes good pizza (or thai, or sushi, or whatever you think she'd like) - or better yet, ask her what's her favorite kind of food.  Then, if you know a good place, tell her you know a good place and ask if she'd like to try it out sometime.  Or, if you don't know a good place, ask her if she does.  If so, tell her you'd like to try it, and could she would show it to you and you could eat there sometime?  If she has a favorite kind of food, but neither of you have any idea where to get it, then ask if she'd like to see if the two of you would like to try to find a place.

None of this will put her on the spot, and from her reaction you can gauge if she'd like to have an involved relationship with you or if not.

And if she's willing, don't try to kiss her on the first date, unless she seems like she wants it, and don't try to have s*x on the first date - she'll feel smothered.  If  she's willing to try one thing with you, it'll work out for the second.  It's not an all or nothing thing.  If you get and give good vibes, she'll be up for a second date, and if you do it right, you'll get a third, and eventually you'll get her as a girlfriend.

If she's giving you an sign that says no, like "um, I have to wash my hair", or seems reluctant to go further, then leave it at that - don't trash the friendship, and over time you may get what you want (and that, literally, happened to me).

Good luck!

Answer 5

Taking Authority over Your EmotionsEmotions are an area that many Christians don’t understand. Because of this, Believers often allow their emotions to lead them. As a result, emotionally-led decisions take them on a course that is out of the will of God for their lives. While God gave every human being emotions, it is critical that we get control over negative emotions and subject them to the Word of God. Make these daily confessions so that you can subject your feelings to God’s Word and make the right decisions:

Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me healthy emotions. I declare that negative emotions will not impact my decisions, neither will they dictate my responses to difficult circumstances. I will submit my feelings to You in every situation that I encounter in life. You have given me authority over the power of the enemy, and I declare that nothing shall by any means hurt me, including people and situations that try to negatively influence my emotions. When I feel overwhelmed by life, or troubled by negative emotions, like Jesus, I will pray and keep moving forward  I bind depression, anxiety, worry, fear, doubt, anger, rejection and any other negative emotion that tries to attack my mind. I possess power, love and a sound mind. I thank You, Father, that I walk in peace, joy and the comfort of the Holy Ghost. I have the mind of Christ and my emotions are controlled by the Word of God. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Scriptural references:

·Mark 14:33-35

·Luke 10:19

·2 Timothy 1:7

·Romans 14:17

·1 Corinthians 2:16

God Bless U

Answer 6

tell her how you feel you never know maybe she feels the same way for you