I have a newly engaged friend who I believe it being Mentally Abused by her fiance'?

Question

How can I tell her delicately that the way she is being treated by him is not normal? I've checked out domestic abuse websites and her situation fits all the warning signs leading up to domestic violence, except for him striking her(which I don't believe he has gone that far yet). He treats her bad tries to embarrass her, tries to pull her away from family and close friends, acts like she is property and just a s*x object, constantly checks up on her when they are apart, and when they aren't at work they have to be together or else he throws a fit. If anyone knows how to try to get her to help herself or possibly some way her family could legally keep him away from her before it escalates to physical abuse.

Answer 1

Be prepared for her to end the friendship she has with you.  Your friend has some self-esteem issues and rather than looking at who her fiance really is -- she's got this wedding fantasy going on.  Everything you tell her she will tell him.  Then he will prevent her from being friends with you.

Have her come over to your house to talk.  Make sure you two are alone and show her the information you've researched.  Let her know that you care for her as a friend and will support her no matter what.  Good luck.  If she's a true friend, she'll come to you when things fall apart.  Just be prepared for her denial of the abuse.

Answer 2

This is very scary, she does need help.  (So does her boyfriend, from himself!).

Warn her.  Some people bring out these symbiotic bad relationships in each other, think of all the money we spend on trivial idiotic things, paying a few bucks for a good therapist could save us thousands in the future.  Just think of where a bad marriage will go.

Answer 3

he sounds like spencer from the hills hahaha.

there is nothing you can do. the girl will stay until she feels its time to leave him. plus they are engaged.. shes in too deep.

Answer 4

She is her own worste enemy to have anything to do with that type of person, you can't help her unless she wants to help herself, if that happens she may ask you to help her in any way you can, you should be there for her then.