I have a problem with my friends! could u help me out?its kinda long please answer though!?

Question

ok so last nite i was at my friends birthday party and well of course everybody was there and it was a sleep over and theres this girl i know (and im just going to use two fake names...so heather and kate) well heather was just pissing me off the whole time like she was just saying stupid things all the time..and this was like the first time all summer that i have seen her so i dont know why she got on my nerves so fast well anyways we watched some movies and of course she HAD to put her opinion in and it was a really great movie and i loved it and so she just dissed on of my most favorite moives(ps. i love you) and well me and my other friends were crying through the whole thing and then kate and heather were making fun of us for crying and it was only because they didnt cry through out the whole moive...i was p.o because i mean just because we cried during a movie doesnt make us babbies ..but w.e and then we went down in the basement to go to sleep and well then there wasnt enough room for us all to sleep next to eachother so there was like a division between us and it was 5 of them vs. the 4 of the rest of us and well i was talking to the rest of my girls and then they started wispering also and i KNOW for a FACT that they were talking about me...and i was talking to one of my other friends and i asked her what they were talking about but they wouldnt tell me but i was like w.e that means for sure that they were talking about me....oo and when they first got there then we were playing rockband and well i have the game at my house and well i play alot so im good at everything there is u can do so they kept getting p.oed becuase iw as better then them and then they failed the same song over 10 times and they woulndnt play the songs they didnt do which was all of them except 3 and i was getting really pissed off..so me and kate were looking at magizines and well IIIII found a jonas brothers picture and well kate had to have it cuz i "have" so many of them already ...and i was thinking to myslef im sorry i read a lot of magizines and collect picures and put them on my wall....and lets just say that the night progressed....what should i do...should i dump them or forgive them ....o also this wasnt the first time that this has happened this is like ALL the time

Answer 1

Hmmmm to tell you the truth, they sound like every other 13 year old girl who wants attention from her friends.

When I had my 14th sleepover (I think 14), I had a lot of girls over to a hotel room. We were all having so much fun and then one of my friends starting acting EXACTLY like your Heather. She was just sour the whole time and we all got mad.

I think that girl just wanted attention at the party.

It's up to you:

Were they like that just to YOU or to EVERYONE?

If it was to everyone, then I would let those 2 go. Ugh, you don't need them. They can have each other.

If it was just to you, I would talk to your friends about it and see what they think. If YOU let them go, it's not saying that they will be gone. Your other friends will still hang out with them probably so therefore you will too. That's the problem. In all honestly, if you tell them you don't want to be friends with them and then your own friends keep on talking to them, the bad girls are just going to talk about you even more and the problem will be worse.

I would tell them to please lighten up. Ask them what's wrong, why are they being so mean to you? If they don't have an answer, then just give them a cold look and don't talk to them for a few days. I know it sounds bratty, but you'll feel much better and they will just get annoyed. They don't really sound like the type of girls to forgive so I don't think your problem will ever get solved. I would drop them, but really, that won't solve anything unless ALL of your friends drop them. It'll take a while to get her completely out of your system.

I guess that I didn't help much, but I hope I didn't sound bratty or b*tchy saying all that aha! You need to talk to your friends and then her. Maybe all of your friends can sit down together and talk about it. That might help her come around. Otherwise, she'll only be even angrier. You just need to find out what it is that's ticking her off and find that common ground. Good luckk.