I have a problem with my mindset (10 points)

Question

All of my friends smoke cigarettes, and I usually do too.

However I am not addicted, and I get nothing out of it, but for some reason I feel I must just because all of them do. I don't know if it's peer pressure or what?

What should I do?

Answer 1

definitely peer pressure..

you must decide what you really need and want to do..weigh the circumstances..if you think that you will be out of the group or kick out of the group by stopping smoking then are they really your friends? or just bad influences..think..feel and absorb...

Answer 2

First of all, you need to really be clear on whether or not  you're addicted to cigarettes. I know so many kids that say they aren't addicted to something- but then when they stop, they can't take it and go back.

If you really aren't addicted, you are very fortunate. Nicotine is a highly addictive chemical. If you are, please seek help.

Your friends smoke..so obviously you're going to feel obligated. I'm sure your friends are good kids, but they aren't making the right choices. You need to make the decision here. . . Follow that slight pressure, or following your own path.

Growing up is unfortunately about messing up, falling down, and trying things. You need to try to look for that inner, mature voice you have, and put an end to smoking.

..Stop smoking, and see what happens. If your friends pressure you, they aren't your friends. If they dump you, good riddance. You're far better off without friends like that anyway.

Answer 3

Oh..I can so relate to this question. I started smoking back when I was 19. I am now about to turn 35. I started cause someone told me it would give me a buzz. I figured...what the h**l. So I did it. But anyhow..to the point. I have started and stopped pretty much ever since I started. I think I am the same way as you. For me, it is a social thing. Even now...I am thinking about going out and having a smoke with some co-workers, though I have not had one in days. Here has been my typical schedual for months now. I work 4 night a week. On those nights...I smoked. On my days off I did not (which is like half the week). I have never had withdraw symtoms like some people and can go days without one. But sure as ****...come my first night back to work, I want to go out and BS and have a smoke. I struggle with the my mindset...telling myself...what does it hurt. But my boyfriend really hates them and has never seen or smell me do it. And a part of me is tired of hidding it from him...but none the less I am thinking about having one right now. Even knowing that I am doing something that is not good for me and something that would upset someone I care about. It is a hard call...for you to make. Do you feel pressure from your friends...or would they not care. Is it something that you would want to do, if you were standing around them and they were having a smoke? You just have to make a decision. Right now I am on the fence. Not sure if i help you...but I do understand where you are at.

Answer 4

Maybe you're afraid that if you don't smoke, they won't want to be your friend. If that's the case, then yeah it's kinda peer pressure. And if your friends would ditch you because you don't do everything they do, then they're not really very good friends.

I think you should stop. As you probably know, smoking gives you lung cancer. And you die from lung cancer. Don't smoke. there are cooler ways to die... (and if you don't smoke you can donate your lungs when you do die =] ) (and that way, you can save someone's life =] =] )

Answer 5

For sure it's peer pressure.  If you're only smoking because you're friends are and you aren't addicted yet, it's the perfect time to stop, you don't need friends that are going to make you feel uncomfortable constantly.  Quit the smoking while you still can and ditch your "friends"

Answer 6

Can I just have the 10 points?

Answer 7

Try and be independant for once. Only will power will stop you smoking if its not an addiction.

Maybe it is an addiction! They always say that self denial is the first sign of an addiction.. I would suggest visiting your local doctor for some information packs.

If you conciously know you are going to smoke, then stop it. If you can't and you *HAVE* to smoke then you are an addict.

Answer 8

QUIT! Nothing good can ever come of smoking, I'm sure that its the pressure because if you're not addicted then you should stop instantly. smoking doesn't make you any much of a better person in fact I depise it but respect peoples chpice to do it but by the sounds of things this isn't your choice your doing it just for the sake of it you need to stop!