I have a problem with my sons teacher and i hate it that i hate her!?

Question

my son is in kindergarden he is 5 he started in the middle of the school year and i guess the teacher wasnt happy about him coming in so late because she did nothing but complain about him the first whole week he was there! ok, he was in pre-school for a year 1/2 before i put him in this charter school and the teachers from the pre-sch had never had a bad thing to say about him they always would tell how respectful he is and loving to the more younger kids. well i have complaind to the principal at the charter and she said that kelly is young and maybe she is frustrated with julien not knowing the rules! but is that juliens problem that she has no kids of her own and no patience with 5 yr olds i said maybe she shouldnt be teaching kinder garden! julien said she is mean to him and i believe him he has no reason to lie! he know when someone is mean! i have a meeting today with her to "duscuss" julien and i already know she is going to complain about him what can i say to put her in her

Answer 1

I would tell her that her behavior towards my child better change DESPITE what she may think of him. It is inappropriate and out of line for a teacher to A. complain about her students (in front of them) and B. Treat a student in a rude manner. I would also tell her that if she does not changer her attitude I will go to the principal and the school board if I have to to make sure that this does not happen anymore. There is absolutely NO reason why a  a kid in kindergarten should should be treated in such a manner.

Answer 2

apparently your one of those annoying parents who believes your little precious brats do no wrong

so what this teacher has no kids go in there acting stupid and immature and your kid will deal with that all the way through that school. teachers talk no teacher will want your kidfind out what the problem is and correct it your little angel could very well be a terror and the other teachers told you he was fine to avoid your nasty temper

oh and grow up your kid isnt as perfect as you would like to believe

Answer 3

When she starts complaining about your son you need to ask her for proof to back up her accusations.  Tell her that you think she doesn't have the patience to be a kinder teacher and maybe she needs to seek a different profession.  Let her know that you have already talked to the principal and that you don't intend to stop until something is done about the way that she is treating your son.  Hes to young to protect himself, that's what were for.  I don't like confrontation either but when it comes to my kids, bring it on!!  Maybe you should see about moving him to another classroom so they can see that you are serious.  You  should also let the principal know that if he doesn't do something about her, you can and will go to the school board.  I hope this helps you!  Good Luck!!

Answer 4

this is the reason I homeschool.  I worked for  the public school system and I saw some of the stuff that teachers did to kids.    Hopefully she has not ruined school for your son and his teacher next  year will be better.

Answer 5

The teacher should not get frustrated with him not knowing the rules.  Since this is Kindergarten, I'm sure she went though this at the beginning of the year with all of the kids.  She should know how to deal with it without being mean to any of the kids.  If she can't deal with kids coming into the class during the school year, she shouldn't be a teacher.  Families move all the time and this is something she will have to deal with throughout her career as a teacher.

Answer 6

I was feeling that my sons teacher did not like him either..

I was having a meeting with her.. and came right out and asked her if there was a problem with her not liking him... she immediately responded that she did like him and that they got along fine.. my son really does like his teacher.. not all teachers should be teachers,, my daughter remembers a time when a teacher in Grand Prarie Texas hit her over the heaad  with a book.. the teacher denied.. my daughter remembers it to this day.. go with your intuition.. this teacher will be putting your  child behind in his education by singling him out.. if principal does not help go to the school board..

Answer 7

homeschool! Do not let a school ruin your child. If you think that he will forget what is going on then you are wrong. Once they start being mean then it just goes from there and once they take away your sons confidence and love for things then it is hard to get it back. Do you want him to go through that? I don't think you do. Once you make the teacher mad it may get worse instead of better. If I were you I would bring it up and I don't like confrontation either. It needs to be talked out. I would ask the principal to sit in on the meeting and talk about everything that has been done and said. maybe you will get it worked out.

Answer 8

Maybe you should have waited and started him at the BEGINNING of the year!  

You don't know what your child is doing in school.  All the other children know the rules since they have been in the class since the beginning.  She may have to speak to him more often because he is new and isn't following rules.

Don't jump to conclusions about the teacher.  Anyone teaching kindergarten has more patience then most people.   Could you put up with 18 or more 5-6 year olds for 7-8 hours a day every day and always be perfect?  Doubt  it.  Just because a teacher doesn't have her own kids doesn't mean anything.  Some people choose not to have children or can't have their own children.  

Try listening to what the teacher has to say with an OPEN mind since she is the one spending so much time with your child.  

By the way pre-school is not kindergarten expectations change and your child may be having trouble dealing with that.  Good luck at your conference and try and have an open mind.

Answer 9

I hear what you're saying, but I need to relate a little incident that I once took part in.

I was a new teacher of a 9th grade class, and there was a major complaint about me towards the end of the first semester.

Apparently I had called one of my female students a s**t in class.

The mother complained in a most irate manner to the school.  All sorts of accusations flew, and the principal couldn't seem to say anything that the woman wanted to hear.

The principal finally set up a meeting between the parent, the student, myself, and because I was new, my supervising teacher.

The mother came in, and she ranted and raved for 5 minutes about the injustice that her daughter was suffering under my harsh regime, potty mouth and lack of compassion.  She said her daughter reported that I was working her too hard, I was grading her unfairly, and that I'd called her a s**t in class.

When she finished talking, I showed her my grade book.  It had 8 marks in it for most students, but only 1 for her daughter.  The girl had done zero since Week 2 of that semester.

When the mother looked taken aback, I reminded the girl that if I had called her s**t in class, there would be 25 witnesses to it.  I asked the girl straight out, "Have I ever called you any rude names in class or at any other time privately?"

She said a timid, "No".

The mother apologized and set up a schedule for her daughter to have half-lunch and after-school detentions twice a week until all her work was handed in to an acceptable standard.

Meeting over.

I would have hated to be the girl when I got home that night.

By the way, she managed to finish all her assignments within three weeks.  They were quite well done, but I couldn't give her a high mark because it wouldn't have been fair on her classmates who got their work in on time.  I gave her a "C" at the end of the semester, and never heard a peep out of her or her mother again.

Now I'm not saying that your son's teacher is in the right.  I don't know.  But neither do you know the facts, really, at this point.  I'm asking you to have an open mind going into the meeting.

As in every walk of life, not all teachers are excellent, but the vast majority work really hard to educate the children in their charge.  Tell her that you perceive there to be a problem, and then sit back and let her say what she thinks is happening.

If her explanation is unsatisfactory, then by all means go to the principal or the school board if you have to.  

But listen first.  Good luck!

Answer 10

pccents has a great answer.  I remember my first year of teaching and the one thing they don't teach you in school is how "not" to let personal feelings show or how to "handle" them.  The principal is probably your best source of resolve in this situation.    He/she has most likely been a educator for a while.  Whatever you do, do not discuss this with any of the other parents, etc.  It makes you look bad.  My gut instinct would be to ask around & see if others have had this problem also.  Honestly if this has happened before, the principal will know about it.  When you do finish your meeting with the principal assure him/her that this will not leave the office and will not be "shared" with other parents.  Give me an update on how it goes, we've had a "rough" year also...with a first year teacher.

Answer 11

I don't like confrontation either, but I would listen to whatever she has to say and then tell her " I haven't had any previous complaints before about Julien, is there a specific problem that you have with my son on a personal level?" And then wait for her response. If she seems to be fishing for words to say or hesitates or something, I would talk to the principal and the teacher together. The principal should not have a problem addressing your concerns and working with you with the teacher. If you get no where with a meeting with the 2 of them together and Julien is still complaining after this, then call the School Board and arrange a meeting to speak to them about the teacher and the principal. Make sure that problems exists after the meeting w/the principal and the teacher 2gether, otherwise you don't want to appear to be paranoid or overprotective about your kid. My daughter used to say her bus driver was mean and didn't like her, I talked about it w/her (my daughter)  and then waited and I have heard nothing since then, sometimes it is just an isolated incident or two and then it fades. Good luck. Stay calm and keep your cool.

Answer 12

Move and never go back a again a put him in a different school