I have a problem .... would be glad for advice anyone

Question

I have a male friend who I really like but he is going out with a girl who I think he is quite happy with. Them two together really upset me but no one knows about me liking him as I would never want to wreck his relationship. The girl he is going out with though seems to upset me not because she isn't a nice person but because everything in her life is perfect. And I mean everything: boyfriend, looks, friends ..parents. I dont have low self esteem and am very confident and don't really feel ugly or anything but everytime I look at her I feel upset! But that is only because she is with that guy.The only thing I feel I really have to my name is my A grades which she doesnt. Although I am friends with that guy I am thinking of letting him go and stop being friends with him because I can't deal with them two together. What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

If it is too much for you then end the friendship, but it would be a shame to lose such a good friend. Why can't you be happy for him? It sounds like he has found a very good catch, but, I know, it is not you. Can you get to like the girl? How is their relationship, good, shaky, difficult or bliss? Do you think he likes you? What I would do is to act nonchalant around them, but do little things that endear him to you (smile and wink when you say a joke that is kind of an inside joke to both of you, wave to him from across the room, look your best when you guys hang out, touch his arm when you are making a point, etc.). Remember, what you want to do is be in his sub-conscience. Not realizing he wants you until one day he wants you, is your goal. Good luck.

Answer 2

your jealous,do nothing or you could lose a good friend,be happy for him and just wait to you meet a guy and then you see how silly this all is  

Answer 3

em hello its called jealously ,like go and find someone to keep your mind off him,you should  feel ashamed of yourself i thought he was your friend

Answer 4

well i think what u should do is ask him if you could speak to him about something important and tell him you think you and him shouldn't hang around anymore because you have feelings for him and you have nothing against his girl but it upsets u when u see them together because you like him. it might be hard but it has 2 be done or you will remain a bit gutted he aint with you. but you will get success through your A levels. good luck

Answer 5

Why not find another guy to stare at THAT DOESN'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND??? I don't know...it might help...

Answer 6

Maybe just take some breathers first. Then maybe you want to just not ditch the friendship all together just dont hang around him as much. Its very big of you to not want to ruin there relationship, most girls dont care about anyone besides themselves so they dont mind ruining things. You sound like a good person. If ending the relationship is going to make you feel better then do it but be ready to have an explanation for him if he asks you whats wrong, cause if he asks and you say "I really like you and cant stand seeing you with her" that might ruin the relat. to so be careful. Good luck!

Answer 7

any attempt to pry them apart would jsut make your firend resent oyu

if you really lie khim its best to jsut ride out and either wait untill someone new catches your eye or unitll they break up.

dont let it ruin your friendship

jsut take soem time away form your friend

liek dont tal kt othem for a few weeks untill you get over it

but dont lose thme completely

Answer 8

Sounds great

Answer 9

I think you should just find your own boyfriend and leave her boyfriend alone. They are in a relationship and you need to stop comparing yourself to other girls. Good luck.

Answer 10

I wouldnt recommend breaking your' friendship over it. It may hurt because you have a crush on him, but if you are a true friend just hang in there and be happy that he likes this girl and is happy. Dont do anything or say anything to try and hurt that relationship either. Just hang in there. Who knows, maybe one day he will realize that he truly loves you and you guys will end up together. If you break off your friendship then maybe you'll never know. But, if it does only stay a friendship just be happy that you have a great attractive friend to hang out with! If it's meant to be, then one day it will be!