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I have had depression for almost four months. Usually when I get depression, it only lasts a few weeks. But it's usually only where I feel down. This time, it's completely different. I'm getting suicidal thoughts out of nowhere, and I'm very lethargic during the day, and at random points I just want to cry. Of course I have enough sense not to act on them, but it is getting harder to push the thoughts away and not act on them. It's really confusing. I also have a huge lack of self esteem, but no matter how hard I've tried to tell myself there is nothing wrong with me, that I'm a beautiful person and I'm a good person, it always goes away and I'm left feeling like I'm someone who's only here to get in the way. I was verbally abused by my brother for almost 12 years until he left home. I'm 16 now. I didn't know that he was doing something wrong at the time. I just thought I was being bad and I needed to be disciplined for it, but he yelled at me for very stupid reasons now that I look at it. Like shutting my door too loudly. But it really is getting harder to ignore the thoughts of suicide. There has been history of depression in my family, and no medication or amount of therapy works. My parents keep telling me that my depression will pass. But I'm not so sure...

How do I get rid of it?

Answer 1

Think good thoughts, happy thoughts.  Think of your loved ones.  Think of the achievements you have made in life no matter how small they maybe you felt happy then remember?  Focus on life as being worth living.  Take a walk in the park where there are a lot of trees, go to beaches.  Nature has a way of dealing with depression too.  And best of all, pray to GOD.  Accept Jesus Christ in your life.  Find a local church where you can grow in the knowledge of GOD and believe me that everything will turn out good.  You are a wonderful creation of GOD, remember that always!

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Answer 2

Prayer is also powerful.

Answer 3

There is a battel between good and evil waring for your soul,you best accept Jesus while you can.

Answer 4

I was affraid to get help from a doctor for depression.  I did not want to take medications.  I have felt so much better now that I got up the courage to see a doctor and get medication.  I realized that I have a right to feel good like others.  I also realized that I cannot help it that I have a chemical imballance in my brain.  Just like a diabetic needs insulin I need medication.  

I hope you feel better soon.  

Answer 5

Sounds like you need to evaluated for bipolar disorder. Regular anti depresents don't work on that with out mood stabilizer drugs as well. It is genetic, so it also fits on running in your family.

Bipolar is usually misdiagnosed as just depression for about 13 years before it is correctly diagnosed.

Bipolar has intrusive thoughts as one of the symptoms, those fit your description of thoughts out of no where.

I wish you the best!

Answer 6

It is totally normal to get depressed every once in a while; even for no apparent reason. Usually there is a reason why you get depressed, but you won't always know.

Since your a girl and 16, hormones could be playing a major role as well.

Even thoughts of suicide don't always mean your in need any special help. I think most people have at one point in time wished they were dead or thought that things would be better if they were dead.

But if this has gone on for more than a month, then you do need help. The therapy might not have worked for other family members but that doesn't mean it won't help you. I could be the counselors they saw just weren't effective because they stopped seeing them too soon, they just weren't compatible with that counselor, or the style of therapy wasn't right for them.

It's the same with the medications. Your family members might not have responded because they just didn't get the right kind of medication, and/or worse yet, they were misdiagnosed and really didn't need the drugs. Those who don't need antidepressants, or have something else going on, like Adult ADD, will actually get worse, not better on the meds.

You really need to talk to your doctor and see if they think medications might help, and/or find a professional to talk to. If they think it's hormonal, you could try the pill to regulate your hormones and that might go a long way to help keep you from getting depressed.

As far as someone to talk to, you could start out with the school counselor. If they think you need more help than they can provide, they will help you to find some one.

Answer 7

Depression is not the common cold. Yes, depression will pass either with help or with suicide. Please re-read that sentence. If it goes away, it is only for awhile, it will return especially with a family history. You are genetically wired for depression, as are most people. There are dozens and dozens of medications that help, the trick is finding the right one. The same is true for high blood pressure, dozen and dozens of meds are available, but it may takes ages to find what works for you if you have high blood pressure. Or you may take a med for years and it suddenly stops working. So what do you do with your high blood pressure--give up and have a stroke? Of course not. This is also true for depression, believe me I know personally and professionally.

Tell your parents you need to see someone, not just for meds but for therapy. Therapy is not magic it often takes months or even years to help. Why so long? Because we as humans resist change, it's hard to look at things differently.

Please, religion can be supportive and helpful, but would you ONLY perscribe the Bible for your cancer?

Thinking about suicide is dangerous, tell your parents or another family member NOW. The #4 cause of death for American kids ages 10-14 is SUICIDE. You are 16, but the numbers only get worse as we age. Show your parents this post, if you want. I am a RN for 26 years with depression that goes along with bipolar disorder. Many times I wanted to give up and have come close. I've been on lots of meds over the years, and lots of therapy, some meds worked short term, others not at all. The meds that are working for me now, may not in a year. But you have to keep on trying. Don't let anyone tell you it's just a hormone teen thing, if that was true, why are so many dead?  That includes my best friend who I knew from the time we were in diapers, dead at 15. I could not help her,but I hope I can help you.

To the poster below. Many people have intrusive thoughts with just plain depression and also with anxiety. I am a nurse and  by law cannot diagnose, just give information, my professional experience and knowlege and support. If I can't diaganose, you can't either, that's dangerous. Let a professional diagnose. Yes, you meant well, but when people are vunerable they hear things differently than what was meant.

Much, much luck to you, XXXOOO

Answer 8

It sounds that your brother played a role in making you feel this way. I am sorry that you had to experience that. Verbal abuse is very harmful due to the fact it causes scars that don't go away. I was also abused growing up by my father, but thankfully as I have gotten older, it doesn't bother me now. I am sure your brother loves you and was just playing the typical older brother, maybe he wasn't aware of just how strongly he was hurting you. Maybe now that he has left home, you can overcome this and start feeling better about yourself.

anytime you have thoughts of suicide you need to do something. Have you told your parents that you have these thoughts? If not or if you can't, you need to find someone you trust to share these feelings with such as a friend, your preacher if you attend church, counselor at school or etc. Since this has been going on for 4 months and nothing seems to help that you have tried, you need to go visit your doctor and see what he recommends before you do act on these feelings and thoughts.

I hope this helps, but please do something before you take your own life. Suicide is never the answer. Keep your chin up and I wish you the best:)

Answer 9

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

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Answer 10

You should not let your depression continue any longer without seeing a doctor.  Are you already on any kind of medication or seeing a doctor for your depression?  It sounds like you may need to try a new medication or try changing your dosage.  A family history and the abuse you went through are very valid reasons for being depressed, but you don't have to suffer through it.  If your parents won't take you seriously, see a school counselor, trusted teacher, or neighbor.  I wish you all the best.