I have a question about adoption?

Question

My husband and I want to adopt two children. I prefer to adopt twins so they'd have a biological sibling with them their entire life. Anyway... is there any country that will allow us to adopt twins from age 1-3 months? We really want a tiny infant!! Thank you!!

Answer 1

You can't adopt such a young baby internationally. The preference is to place children in  their home country before placing  them internationally, so children are generally over 6 mo, and  often 12 mo or older. You can adopt a newborn through domestic adoption in the US. You can specify that you are only interested in  twins, but most likely this will make your waiting time very long.

Answer 2

So this is about what you want in the way of a special order correct?

If not, you need to change the way you relay your wishes for what YOU want, because what you want has nothing to do with helping a child or children in your case.

It only reflects what YOU want.

You can find siblings in foster care in America.

Answer 3

Well, that's a tall order. Would you like fries with that? Sorry to sound crass, but adoption is treated like a fast food restaraunt in the US today, and you seem to have fallen prey to that mentality.

First off, adoption should be a way to find families for children who need them, not babies for adults who want them. Second, if you just can't survive without someone else's babies to raise, you need to go through the process, cough up the dough to buy the babies all proper-like (i.e. to pay the agency that coerced the babies away from the natural mother for you), and understand that your babies might have been a product of a baby farm. And third, I fully understand if you take offense to the things I just said (I did too when people first said them to me) - but you must understand, this is what it feels like to be an adoptee. People are buying and selling babies, and one day those babies grow up and start to have feelings about the fact that someone so callously said "I want a baby - oh what the hay, make it two!", and went right out and bought them.

Before you move on with any form of adoption, please take LOTS of time to learn about adoption from the adoptee's perspective. It will change your life, and it will probably change your mind about wanting to raise someone else's children (just guessing by the way you wrote about it in your question).

Answer 4

My guess is that twins would go fast, if you are concerned about your adopted child having biological siblings with them, you might look at a small sibling group, grant it they aren’t all going to be tiny infants(maybe not any)  but still you could end up with say a 8month old, 3year old and 5 year old.  Your real concern in adopting should be providing a home to a child that needs it.  I realize a lot of people want them but they aren’t the only ones that need homes and parents, in fact their probably less because everyone wants them first so, often times they are going to get a home.

That is also true many people who adopted children from other countries don’t end up with an infant as young as you want.

Please read some books adopting is about giving a child/baby a home that needs it, not your desire to have an infant.

Answer 5

You have some very unrealistic, and in my opinion unhealthy and  unethical attitudes, about adopting. You make it sound like a special order at a restaurant "I really want a tiny infant...make it two please!"

I would strongly suggest you do some serious research. You need a realistic view of how adoption works from the legal and procedural aspects, as well as the adoptee and firstparent experiences -both International and domestic- to help you understand where you need to be from an ethical standpoint.

Answer 6

It will be quicker to keep on havin s3x till you get twins

Answer 7

From foreign countries, the babies are generally older.  The chances of adopting twins at birth is rare, because there just aren't that many twins available.  I have only 1 friend who has adopted twins, and they were from the foster care system, where they had been fostering since birth.  The babies had to go through 2 reunifications with the first parents, before their rights were terminated and my friends were allowed to adopt them at age 2.  The kids are now 5, and putting their parents (new ones) into a great physical exercise plan, and are very happy.

The chances of even adopting an infant is rare.  Don't be lured of e-mails promising twins.  There are many scam artists that try to get you to send money for their shots to be able to come to another country, only to be scammed.  

There are more twins available if you expand your search, allowing adoption from all races, and in the case where there might be something wrong, such as prematurity, drug use by the mother, etc.

Answer 8

China

A friend of mine went there to adopt a baby and the women had twin girls... So they came home with 2

Also from what I've heard adopting a Phillipino baby is like changing a car title... Not saying that to be mean just stating

Answer 9

First of all, there are a lot of prospective adoptive parents hoping to adopt infant twins and. While you can state in your homestudy that you are open to twins, they aren't really that common, so there is a good chance you will still be referred a single child.

As far as age goes, no you would not be able to adopt a child that young internationally. in most countries, the child is not allowed to be refered for international adoption for a certain time period, while they try to locate an adoptive family in that country first, and once the child is refered the wait to pick up the child can range between 3-12 months. Depending on the country, the youngest age that children join their adoptive families ranges from about 6 months old - 2 years old. (Most are around a year old)

If you're set on adopting a newborn then you would need to adopt domestically, but there are even more families waiting to adopt a healthy newborn in the US, so you definetly couldn't say you're only open to twins.

Answer 10

yeah, ummmmm, good luck with that.

what you want is what most PAP's want.