I have a question for Dad's?

Question

This is a serious question, Iv'e wondered about. Are Fathers jealous of stay a home mommie's, and the bond we get to form with our kids. I have an 11month old and a 2 1/2 year old, when my husband comes home and holds the girls, they will put their arms out for me. I feel bad for him, and try to down play it,because I know the reason I have a stronger bond is because I get to stay home with them while he has to go to work. Does this bother Dads.

Answer 1

First of all, your kids don't do that because they have a stronger bond with you because you stay home with them all day.  I'm a mom, but I'll give my two cents here.  Me and my husband both work full time but I am always the one the kids go to, unless I am sick.  We both spend equal amount of time with the kids.  It's a mom thing really.  Where my hubby works, he has winters off.  Even when he is home all day with the kids for 3 months straight, the kids STILL want me.  So it has nothing to do with you being home with them all day.   I have two girls 2 and 7, and they still prefer me over Dad.

Answer 2

I know I'm not a Dad, but I just want to say, feel lucky that you get to stay home with your kids.  I'm denied that, and my husband stays home and I have to work.  IT SUCKS!  I'm denied the role I was meant to have.  Just make sure you thank you husband everyday for what he does for you and your family, and for supporting your family.

Answer 3

Sorry, I'm not a dad either, but I agree with the working mom/SAHD back there.

My husband stays home too, as he is retired, and I am not so I go to work, but little D is always all over me for love, it's a mommy thing.

In part answer to your question though, *I* am jealous of stay at home moms, I feel like I am missing it and there's nothing I can do about it.

Answer 4

Funny, I really don't have that problem. My wife stays home and I work A LOT, sometimes don't see the kids for a couple of days since i get home after bedtime.  I'm not jealous, because I know I could never do what my wife does...that's a hard *** job! Try to get your hubbie to take them places (especially the 2 year old) when he goes on his free time...the hardware store, gas station, whatever! ANY bonding time he can get is great, but i wouldn't say he is jealous.  It's just the way it is. If he wants them to be closer to him, he needs to do the best with the time he has, he's responsible for that.  sometimes i just lie on the floor when i get home and let the kids crawl all over me, so they feel safe and they can approach me any time.  Great job on being a stay at home mom!!!

Answer 5

you have girls-- girls wan the mommy.  i know a bunch of families where they have all boys-- they want the daddy.  The dad is willing to be climed on and wrestled with and pick them up and throw them on to the bed but the boys LOVE it because they like roughousing and the dads can do it gently and safely.  moms would rather play teacups with their girls or build little forts for them out of pillows.  Its all about the gender of the child.  I'm sure if you had a boy he would hold his arms out for his daddy.  But still, i'm sure your husband gets jealous, in your situation. just thank him for what he does, and tell him that you couldnt have the girls at all if he didnt work like he does.

Answer 6

It used to a little when my kids were very young, but I finally understood that "momma" bond.  Now that my kids are older, I see them coming to me for guidance, advice and questions just as much as their mom.  It all equals out and  what helped me  too is to remember my youth as well....that "momma" bond is very strong!

Answer 7

I Have the same problem. My husband does get jealous but he also has things he does with our son that I dont do. So I would say some activitys that they just do with dad I think that would be the best way to deal with it. So that way they have mommy for some things and daddy for others.

Answer 8

I am very proud of my wife's relationship with our children, she's a stay at home mom and I work. I have experienced things that you described but I was never jealous - it just made me smile that we're doing the right thing for our children and they love their mom so much. I spend a lot of special time with them so they know my place and my wife says good things about me to them during the day and builds up my arrival in the evenings - that helps.

Good for you for staying home! Could you even imagine if it was you holding your baby and it was reaching back to the daycare worker that had your kid all day while you worked - now that would suck!