I have a question for foreign people who use someone to come abroad?

Question

Do you ever think about what your doing to someone ?do you ever think how much harm,pain and suffering your selfish deed is causing an innocent person who will live with a bleeding heart for life???

I am a 28 yr old woman and when I was 21 I married a man from India I even lived with his whole family for a year loving them,and bonding with them.He never treat me right,he abused me mentally,and physically,but because I was young,stupid and blindly in love I wouldnt leave him.I brought him over to USA in 2003,he stayed with my family and sometimes in other states,while we struggled to get him a good job,all the while I poured my heart and soul into him,even changing my religion and loosing my identity,I leared to cook Indian food,learned to speak the language,and I gave and gave and gave of my heart.I fell ill with a serious illness,during this time he got his citizenship.Things started to decline rapidly after that,he never came home,was cold,could never look into my eyes,

Answer 1

I'm sorry that you have been tortured so.  I myself went through a physically abusive marriage, then a mentally abusive one, so I feel your pain.  But you can't dwell on that.  As long as you sit around and mope about how bad it WAS, then he is winning.  If not for anything but yourself, find someone to talk to.  Even if you don't go to counseling, maybe an abuse hotline or someone who has been the victim like you and survived.  Your life can, and will get better when you take the step to show the world he can't hold you down.  It's good to get your anger and frustration out, don't keep it bottled up for years upon years just to end up a heartless lonely old woman.  Grieve for your time lost, but look forward to the time you still have.  When you get up in the morning everyday, look into the mirror and say, "I am a beautiful woman and I don't ever deserve to be treated that way again!"  Be thankful for the experience of learning a different culture, even though it was painful.  Perhaps you have touched someone in his family in a way you will never know.  Maybe you were given this experience to save someone else's life that is being abused.  You can not control how someone acts, but you can control how you REACT, so surpise everyone and turn this negative experience into something positive in the future.  True love looks beyond physical appearance, and yes, even illness.  But you have to put a smile on your face, no matter how hard, and face the world.  Because you will never find true love if you spend the rest of your life sulking and feeling sorry for yourself.  I hope that my post helps you in some way, I am praying for you right now as I am typing.  If nothing else sinks in, please, find someone to talk to about this.  Become a SURVIVOR, don't remain a victim!!!

Answer 2

As long as you are angry, he's still with you- torturing you.

As long as you cry about him- he's still living inside you.

As long as you dwell on what he and his family did to you- they are All there with you, living and torturing you every single day that you let it.

Hard to do, I know but you have to let ALL OF IT GO!

For your own good, your own sanity, your own happiness.

As long as this continues, your pain, your anger, your resentment---HE'S RIGHT THERE WITH YOU AND HE IS STILL WINNING!  HE STILL HAS A HOLD OVER YOU.

Answer 3

see,  i think u want to live life so if u forget him it will be a kindful act of u on urself as i can feel how u feel in illness .remember lord  has put some aim in ur life dear and he is the one who can think for ur life.  u must go to rehabilatation ,do some creative writing and reading in home ,listen radio specially news .otherwise get well and again try some indian  frn but this time dont marry him and give him benefits .u r my sister  as this happens to me also when u love someone and he loves u , not always ,i know he was a b*****d but u have to make him realise that ,then it will be said that t*t for tat. p.s hey u r 26   u can find better person in coming years .

Answer 4

Dear friend, first of all I m really sorry for that , I think he was not an Indian men`s blood.

dear I have a request to you that you give me his address, I want  to see him, he was a black spot on Indian community, I want to destroy him.

Dear friend you have some confidential and start a new life to forget them,  Please you once come to India after it we will meet to him and I want to take revenge to him for his guilty with a innocent non Indian girl.

Please you contact me and we will discuss in detail on this matter.

Dear friend I m so upset after hear your sorrowful story so I requested that please you once mail me and meet me as possible as.

Dear I  am a powerful men In India and I want to give you justice and a punishment for devil men those who so harassed  you.

Anyway I want to talk to you about this matter , please you once contact me urgently my mail ID is [e-mail]

My Mobile Number is  [phone]

Please please once you contact me I m waiting your mail and phone call.

Because this matter is a not a normal matter, I want to give an example that all Indian are not equal, some men are black spot on Indian land and I want to remove them.

Please you contact me, I am waiting your reply.

you getting well soon my best wishes with you.

Best of luck

Answer 5

Just call me so I can make it juicy for u

Answer 6

I would say move on think you have bad dream and don't need to contact any one just move on to yoUr life .If you really really want the revenge then contact immigration office and tell your story and tell then it is fraud he did to you for immigration, May be they will follow ur story .Good luck to your health sometime good comes out from BAD. Waite for the bright light to lead you good luck .