I have a question for pro-choicers with children?

Question

At what point did you consider yourself a mother? Was it when you found out you were pregnant? Was it when your belly started getting big and your clothes stop fitting? Or was it still just a "choice" right up until the day your baby was born?

Answer 1

For me, it was when I felt the baby moving inside me.  

Answer 2

You ask this question as if all mothers are the same and lived under the same conditions. A rich mother that went to university will answer differently than a poor uneducated mother who was raped and suffers health problems. That's why to be fair pro-choice treats every case different according to the mother and her constitutional rights. We all want the life of every child to prevail, but it's not a black & white issue, it's a very complicated subject. There are many tones of gray that need to be considered.    

Answer 3

Abortion is not a political issue. Too bad some of you don't get it.

Answer 4

That's bs.  You've rolled yourself into your own infinite regression.  When does anyone think they're a mother?  Is it after conception?  Oh wait, it must have been the day that they started ovulating, because that's when it first became possible for them to be a mother.  Stop me when I get close.  Is it when the first stem cell in the ovary changes into an ovum?  This stuff works all the way back.  Should a mother be forced to carry a child conceived due to being a rape victim?  Should a mother be forced to carry a child that, upon birth, could cause untold damages to herself?  Should she have to make a choice between raising a child on no income with limited education or pursuing a college career to make a modest living so that she can actually have one?  You want to ask the so-called hard questions about when someone thinks they're a mother, you had better be able to answer them yourself, and these as well.

Answer 5

I considered myself a mother when I made the conscious choice to foster.  My only wish is that the child's mother I foster would have made the choice to love her.

Answer 6

Became a parent the day they were born.

Answer 7

Oh.......a single tear rolls down my cheek.....

Answer 8

Hmm...I'm not a parent but felt the need to chime in.

I can easily reverse your question and show the flaws of your pro-life stance.

If you are a parent, are you not concerned about all of the  fertilized eggs that died? If over half of them fail to implant in the womb (they are ejected in menstruation, akin to a miscarriage), then that means that you potentially conceived twice the number of children that you actually have. According to the pro-life position, a fertilized egg is the start of life, possesses unique DNA and is the loss of one is equivalent to the death of a child.

Where is your concern for all of those naturally aborted children, some possibly from your own gene pool? Those millions of fertilized eggs must make Roe vs. Wade look like a tea party by comparison.

Sorry, but human biology makes the pro-life position precarious at best. A living organism develops gradually. There's no instant "zap" to make a living egg and sperm any more human than before. A sperm is alive. An egg is alive.

Answer 9

I was a  mother when I had the child, Before that I was a vessel in which was used to nurture and grow the embryo. By the way, I am also a Catholic. Please do not thumb down me because of my views, thought and choices. This is a free country and I have a right to my opinion, thoughts. I also have grandchildren and great grandchildren. I think everyone must do what is right for themselves not others.

Answer 10

It is a womens choice... not any of ours

Answer 11

get over yourself. i hope you don't fall in a lake while trying to walk across it.

Answer 12

If it were going to be undecided whether we were going to have a baby, we would have terminated it right up until the time is was still in the womb. We think that a soul enters the body when the newborn first draws it's breath, or prana (life force)  as soon as it comes out and becomes independent of the mother's womb.

Answer 13

you make no sense . . . and I can't believe all you people are wasting your time on abortion rights, especially now.  Typical republicans, just looking at the unimportant issues!

Answer 14

They aren't mothers. They are murderers!

Answer 15

I considered it a baby the minute it was conceived...but that's irrelevant. It is just my "feeling" and don't you cons hate feelings? Also, I am pro-choice -not because I want abortions- but because making abortion illegal WILL NOT stop abortions from happening. Why don't you cons push for s*x ed and access to condoms for teens in school? I mean really if you hate abortion and you hate welfare babies - start PREVENTING it with education - not ignorance aka abstinence training.

Answer 16

Probably at the point when they CHOSE to have children. Not everyone was an accident like you.