I have a really good friend who can't stop having s*x, and she's only 15?

Question

I try and help her so much, she has had s*x with SIX people, none her boyfriend, since only January! She doesn't even talk to a few anymore - she didn't even like 3 of them, as in didn't have a crush on them, just attracted. She says she just can't help herself, she tries to stop, but when faced with the situation, she does what she does. I know this will effect her in the long run and I hate seeing this. Any idea why she's like this, but most of all - how can I help her?

Answer 1

I think the best thing to do is to tell her parents about this .

Answer 2

IF YOU WANT TO HELP HER, You really need to tell her parents. Don't take a big issue like this in your own hands.

Answer 3

IN MY OPINION THE ONLY WAY U CAN HELP HER IS BY TELLING HER TO USE PROTECTION. ENJOYING s*x IS NOT BAD SO I BELIEVE THAT SHE'S FREE TO ENJOY IT BUT USING PROTECTION. :)

Answer 4

she could be doing this because she was in something that was really hard on her or it could be hormones either way she needs help so help her by telling someone

Answer 5

I read all of the above answers and think you have some great advice so far. The only thing that I didn't see was maybe talking with her about "when faced with the situation" times. Ask her where she is when this happens and suggest she avoid that environment or maybe you can offer to go with her and watch out for her. If your 15 yr old friend is in situations where guys are hitting on her, and she is going for it, she may just need a friend to turn to for strength and support. It is a bit of an addiction unfortunately so teaming up with other friends even to all have an intervention and watch out for her could really work. You are a good friend for caring and she will thank you one day for sticking by her and helping her stop this negative pattern. Good Luck!

Answer 6

if she realy cant stop buy her a box of condoms and have her keep them with her or you can take her to one of those priate meeting where the person cant see u and u cant see the person and talk about her problems

Answer 7

she needs help and you can do that for her.

one of though group meeting. ';-]

Answer 8

make her promise not to do it for two weeks, and then after that if she can handle it, make her promise again, just do it slowly with her and get her to see that there are other things  that she can do,  like u can take her shopping or something, and tell her that its stupid and she doesnt need to have s*x yet, if she likes it tell her to just take a lil break and then shell see that she doesnt need it!  its really important that she does something now  coz then she wont be able to help it. tell her that she doesnt need a guy to make her feel good about herself or whatever... and maby if she starts liking someone she would stop doing stuff with just anyone...  this will ruin her reputation...  give her examples from like ppl at school or something  and just make her feel that this is just sortof a silly phase shes going though  and  she might regret it later  if she doesnt take action, dont make her stop immediately  coz this will discourage her, at least she should stop just having s*x with anyone! (i know  this might be a little  mean  but if things get a lil out of hand, u can make her feel  that her parents  are suspicious   but just dont lie to her coz  then she wont trust u and wont listen to u...)  if shes a good person and means alot to you, a little effort from u both will make a difference in her life . :D good luck!

Answer 9

buyher a dog

Answer 10

Maybe she's a nympho. Sounds like she needs some professional help.

Answer 11

wow thats really sad she can get help from a doctor

Answer 12

WHOAHH!  hoe=rmones i dnt think shes gonna stop but yuh can help her she could goto a doctorr

Answer 13

hormones, many teens go through this, and many nymphs and people with very high libidos are like this in their mid-teens. she shouldn't have started having s*x to begin with, that is the main cause to the problem. she needs to talk to her parents and go to a doctor. the best bet is for her to purchase some s*x toys and m********e frequently as opposed to relying on random young male friends. its healthy to m********e so often, but not healthy to have so many s*x partners.

Answer 14

May have something to do with her childhood.....maybe seeking male attention or approval however she can get it.....and she may not see anything wrong with what shes doing.  You can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.  Just keep reminding her of the negative results of her actions: a baby WAY TOO SOON, a permanent STD, a terrible reputation as a s**t, an extremly bad history she may have to share with the man she falls for in the future,  all of these things can destroy her life and possibly someone elses

Answer 15

Well, many girls are promiscuous if they were molested or sexually assaulted in some way when they were younger. I'm not saying that's the case with your friend, but it's always a possibility you may look into. Often people try to deal with their problems by acting out like this.

15 is very young to have so many sexual partners and you're a good friend to recognize that and try to help her. All you can really do is confront her with your concern and remind her that's she may hurt herself in the end (pregnancy, std, regrets, meaningless relationships) and that it hurts YOU to see her do it to herself. Other than that, you know you can't control what she does. It's her choice.

Answer 16

Tell her she will get pregnant!I'm sure she doesn't want to.

Answer 17

Sound to me like your friend wasn't paying attention in s*x Ed class. Does she not realize that she's increasing her chances of getting an STD (including AIDS) by sleeping around like this? I think maybe she needs to learn things the hard way.... if you get my drift. Let her be if these are the types of things that she's into. She'll learn ...in time.

Answer 18

Sounds to me like she is addicted to it. Like a drug. Only she can stop herself from her behavior. I would ask her as a friend if she is using protection. Cause she can/couple be getting loads of STD's or even HIV. She must have the guys use a condom. And if she is smart she sould be on Birth Control as well. I would suggest telling her mother. I know she will probably hate you but she could get really hurt. For that matter, she could be getting rapped. Or Pregant. Sounds to melike she is missing something in her famiily life so she is resorting to s*x in hopes to find love. I would try to continue to be her friend.

Answer 19

Drae, your friend sounds like she needs professional help- this kind of extreme promiscuity is a sign that something is wrong, perhaps seriously so, in your friend's life. It makes me suspect that she was sexually abused when she was younger, and she is using s*x now to get the love, attention, and approval she desperately needs and craves. She may also believe ( and this would come about as a side effect of abuse) that the only way to relate to men or guys is sexually- that they aren't interested in her except as a s*x object. The famous actress, Marilyn Monroe, thought this way- and there was plenty of evidence that she had been repeatedly sexually molested as a child. Monroe took her own life at the age of 36- and your friend sounds as though she may be headed down that same tragic path. The fame and pressures associated with being a s*x goddess drove Monroe over the edge- and you need to help your friend out before she ends up this way too.

Do your friends parents' know about their daughter's behavior? If not, now's the time to tell them about it. Sure, you may make your friend mad, and she may not speak to you for a while, but that's better than having her continue this behavior to the point where she winds up with AIDS or dead from an abusive partner, or both. She needs help, because this kind of thing is an addiction, and like all addictions, there is treatment available for it.

Excessive sexual activity is also a sign of underlying mental illness, including things like bipolar disorder, which is treatable, and some forms of Schizophrenia. This girl's parents need to get her to the doctor, so she can be evaluated and start receiving treatment. Left untreated, illnesses of this type will only get worse, until they finally kill your friend.

Tell your friend's parents what you know- and do all that you can to get her into treatment. Good luck.