I have a serious problem that keeps messing with my head,please help me!!!?

Question

well i just feel so.....weird and want to cry at times when i think about certain things that involve money.....like when my sister bought me things for christmas and bought my momma things WHEN SHE HAS HARDLY ANY MONEY!! she's living in the trailer park....and she was so hurt when my mother made her a tuna ball for christmas..it was so sad......and when my momma bought me a digital camera that i wanted so bad for christmas..and someone stole it from me at school...and just today we cleaned out our 3 ft. deep pool and filled it back up and we forgot the water holes were still on and i noticed it 6 hours later the pool was over flowing and the water holes had fell out and was laying on the ground..... that wasted water that we could have use for baths and dishes.i feel terrable when i remember this stuff and i don't know if that's normal..my little sister notices these things to and she acts like it doesn't bother her a bit..please just tell me if this is normal?is there a way to cope?

Answer 1

It sounds like you are having some anxiety. It is ok to be sensitive about certain things. But it sounds like you are letting the guilt interfere with your family relationships. Talk openly with your trusted family members about these issues. They may be able to reassure you. And also keep in mind that spending time with your mother and sister is worth far more than any gifts or money. If you continue to be preoccupied with it, you may want to speak to a counselor or your family doctor.

Answer 2

talk, talk, talk to someone that always helps me, just letting those feeling out makes me feel like the weight of it all has been taken off or at least is not that heavy

Answer 3

Seek professional help.

Answer 4

Poet...listen to me.  There are 3 kinds of people in this world.  People that care, people that don't care, and people that say they care, but really dont care.  Fortunately for you, and you are because I am one...I can see it....you are one that cares.  For ten years, I have said the same thing three times a day on a daily basis 24/7 4/12 365X10.  Please turn out the lights when you leave the room... please close the shower curtain when you get out of it..so the water can drip off to inside the tub...please dry off in the shower, not on the rug...dont keep the fridge open while you pour the milk....and please dont open that can of pop till you at least finish the last one.  I treat people every day the way I want to be treated.  If I go to an older family members house for a weekend...the first thing I do is hit their kitchen and scrape the grease off of the stove. If I ever borrow something...I bring it back very soon...and always in better condition then it was when I got it.  I could have wrote your post...and often had thought about doing one just like yours.  But I thought I would be moaning to much.  You however wrote it so well.  I feel like I know you.  I live in a house with 5 noncarers, and 1 saytheycarebutdont.  You don't need professional help, like I saw someone put...you need to find somebody that thinks like you do to talk to.  Here's reachin' out a little bit.  Two hugs to you.  ((Poet)).  The way Ive been able to cope so far is to just walk away...and go into my cave..and just pretend that it'll get better.  Though I know it really didn't...Im able to convince myself that right now...is another time....and life is to short to keep thinking about it...so I think about something else...and then when allsok...I go face the crowd again...and inevitably end up back in my cave.  Hey..its an ok place to be.  At least here, I know that nobody will come in and open a can of pop and leave it on the table.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

sure it's normal. You are not crying over nothing, and you don't need anyone to tell you that...you're dealing with hard stuff