I have a seven yr old and still poops his pants every where we go?

Question

we tried taking stuff from him having him sit on the potty every 5 min to try i need help and some answers

Answer 1

maybe it's something traumatic that has happened in his life which causes this. are you a horrible parent?

Answer 2

um for me when i was liland for my daughter the reward system works like you could say if you use go all day without an accident ill give u a dollar or stickers or candy or whatver is reasonable for you

Answer 3

I agree with the people who recommend that you see a doctor. Then, assuming that there is no mental or medical problem, I would sit him down for a talk about why his behavior is inappropriate and start punishing him when he poops his pants. Make him clean it up, clean himself, wash his clothes, and then do some sort of punishment. On the flip side you could also try rewards for going a whole day or week without pooping in his pants. Whatever you do don't make it too dramatic. Simply say "Okay you know the consequences get to cleaning it up". That way he is not feeding off the attention.

Answer 4

By the age of 7 most kids are fully trained. What does your doctor say? there are conditions where the child has no sensation and so cannot control this function. i have worked with children in special education schools who were successful after being put on a bowel training  program by the psychologist. i would not wait too much longer before you seek professional help. The older he gets, the more it will effect his self image and his ability to make friends.

Answer 5

So, has he got you trained or what?  He has found a sure-fire way of getting attention.  Assuming you've made sure it's not a medical problem, let him go on doing his thing.  Sit him down once more and tell him that you aren't going to do anything about his behavior any more.  Then stick to your decision.  Do not, under any circumstances, explain yourself.  Don't discuss it with him.  Just say "It's your problem.  You solve it."  Then walk away.  Once he realizes he's not getting the attention any more, he'll stop it.  However, since you've been reinforcing his manipulative behavior for 7 years, he'll probably find some other way to bend you to his will.  You probably need some parenting classes to show you how to live with a child without catering to his every whim.  Good luck with that.

Answer 6

this is probably normal  because some kids when i was 7 wet there pants all the time.

Answer 7

Try using the toilet versus a potty.

And I know it does not sound reasonable but "ignore" the problem as though it were a normal day to day thing. And then reward him when he is successful. Positive Reinforcement.

Also, try to guess when it happens... I assume it only happens 1 or 2 a day. Ask him if he feels the need around when he is likely to go. But don't be angry when he messes himself. Again, reward him when he uses the toilet rather than punish him for messing himself.

Last but not least, get him checked by a doctor as there may be a medical reason too.

Answer 8

This must be difficult for you. Likely, though, it is ten times worse for him! Really, at seven, he is already potty-trained - right? This is something new. It's not to be ignored. Talk to him about it. How does it  make him feel? Does he feel sick in any other way? He honestly could have a medical problem and parents and friends could compound the problem by chastising him for it. I think a short-term solution would be to stay at home. Just don't GO anywhere until you figure out what is wrong with him -physically or mentally. It will save you and him a lot of embarrassment. *I doubt this is an experiment to get attention. He may just not understand it himself. Don't badger him about it or accuse him of trying to get attention. Just take off work if you have to and don't go anywhere until you AND he come up with a couple of reasons this could be happening. The answers, really can only be found by talking with your boy. I'm confident you'll sort it out.

A lot of kids in this troubled world have odd coping habits: cutting, hair-pulling, withdrawing, acting out, etc. SEVEN is a very emotional age, in my experience. Don't give up and don't listen to all that "bad parent" trash people talk. Likely, he is scared about what is going on and it is frightening to him that he has no explanation and you've taken his stuff away. Don't forget, parents can apologize,too - without losing their upper hand. If you really want more info, email me. I'd like to know how this turns out. Not to scare you, but I once took care of a boy who was 6 and did the same thing - he had been molested and (I think) that was the way of making himself undesirable (dirty) so that his perpetrator wouldn't want him. Please...talk with the boy.  If you can't get anywhere after a week, call a psychologist or have your pediatrician talk with him.

Answer 9

use diapers.....go to doctor

Answer 10

I might check into a Pysch  evaluation. Sometimes they link this to problems in the childs life that they can't talk about.

I am sorry this is happening. I know it must be so frustrating. How does he do in school?

Did you recently move or have another child? Think about recent changes in your life.

Answer 11

Have him tested; he sounds like he may have a mental problem (if nothing else, passive aggressive); Does he do it at school?  If not, it's his way of controlling you.  If it continues, make his sit in it until he gets home.

Answer 12

dont worry about ;) some adults still wear diapers! its just uncontrolable.

Answer 13

Try using a toilet instead of a potty. He probably thinks that baby uses a potty so if he's a baby he might as well p**p his pants. He would feel like a big boy when he uses the toilet; and thats what little boys want to feel like (a big boy!)

Answer 14

it  might be the way you handed him.is like he is over pampered   .