I have a sexual desire, but i need the lights off for s*x? im insecure, what do i do?

Question

I have a sexual desire, but i need the lights off for s*x? im insecure, what do i do?

Answer 1

Leave the lights on and accept yourself flaws and all.

Answer 2

Because you are with the wroung man . If he was right for you he would make you feel good about your body regardless how it looks . Thats why they call it making love

Answer 3

I am also a lights off person. after ten years of marriage my hubby had done little things like a tea light candle at the other end of the room and he moves it closer every so often. we are now at 2 tea light candles. start out slow. I even have to have the sheet on top me too. its ok to be insecure.

Answer 4

just keep it off

Answer 5

Try candles, they give off just as much light, but in that romantic glow we all tend to feel s**y.

Answer 6

Honestly I am not trying to be rude, but this is your issue not your husband's/BF.  You need to be right with you before you can ever honestly give yourself to someone else...so get right with yourself, Run, jog go to the gym.  When you work on your body and see improvements you become proud of it and it will be fun to show it off!!  

Answer 7

Try candles or just the TV on but on mute so that way its not too bright in the room but there is still some light.

Answer 8

Dim those lights.

Personally I would want to see my wife.

Answer 9

I believe that once we can accept our bodies,we become more comfortable with being seen in the light.Unfortunately,everything we see in the media touts the positive idea of so called perfect bodies,ideal weight,etc. I've never seen so many thin girls that look emaciated,& are believing their not thin enough.If you feel your body is ok,then you may just be modest,& if you want to change,eventually you can,by exposing yourself a little at a time with candle light & eventually natural light. But,there's no law that says you must be anything but comfortable in private,so don't be too tough on yourself...BOL to you.

Answer 10

Man want to see woman's bodies and according to most men one of the biggest turn off is insecurity.You need to try and get over whats bothering you and just enjoy yourself,Also you could buy a colored light bulb,a red one is really nice and it's only 25 watts so it's definitely not going to be like a spot light

Answer 11

first off..you have a sexual desire right?

and your name is SIN in San Francisco? wow..where were you when I was single. hahaha

anyways. as for the lights off. it's up to you. MEN prefer lights on trust me. we don't want to miss a beat or a thrust.

and by the way? stop being so insecure. If we are making love to you, 9 times out of 10, we happen to like you just the way you are!

Answer 12

just remember that if he is wanting to have s*x with you he likes your body the way it is and although you see a lot of flaws, he doesn't. you could maybe start with small amounts of lights to begin with candles then move up to a dim lamp and so on and so forth  

Answer 13

Not to be "snide", but wear a blindfold... it may add a little spice.

Answer 14

Learn to accept yourself and your body for who you are and never be ashamed of it.

Answer 15

accept who you are and use candles.

Answer 16

Keep the lights off.  

In time maybe you'll become more self accepting.

Answer 17

candles!

Answer 18

well if you are insecure about yourself, then you need to sit down and have a talk with your man, i did that with my man and he made me feel so much better about myself.... when you sit down and talk to him then he will understand what you are thinking about and he will ensure you that you are beautiful:) good luck:) i hope that i helped:)

Answer 19

Have a freaking dimmer switch installed and turn down the lights from 100w to 20w.

It's not OK to be ashamed of your body.  It's not uncommon, but it's not OK.  Get comfortable in your own skin so you can focus on your partner and not be so vain.

If you spend the whole time stressing about your appearance, your partner will pick up on that.  As a guy, I have to tell you that it's a MAJOR TURN OFF.

Answer 20

blindfold

Answer 21

Women especially have a problem with the light off. They see things about themselves that most guys just don`t. You look for flaws, and make a mountain out of a molehill and in most cases we don`t even know what your talking about. I like the lights on once in a while, but if she wants them off, what do I care.. the end result is always the same!

Answer 22

Keep the lights off, no biggy!

I prefer the lights off too, though I don't freak out if they're not off, sometimes we light candles and turn off the lights!

Answer 23

Try your fingers