I have a six years old boy when he do realy bad things i put him on my lap and smack his bottom about ten time

Question

do you think it irs good way to punish him

Answer 1

lol i got spanked alot when i was younger, which wasnt that long ago. but it didnt work for me. people nowadays say that its considered abuse but its not its a form of punishment. abuse would probably be going overboard with that stuff and actually hitting your child somewhere besides his bottom. or with an object

and im only 14 the last time i was spanked was a few years ago too. and its not abuse, people on here who say that probably got easy punishments like getting their allowance taken away or something.

but i think 10 times is a little much

Answer 2

I dont think smacking acheives anything.  I got smacked when i was younger and to me it was not a real punishement, it was over in minutes.  Still did naughty things and i never respected my Dad for smacking me or particulary ever grew close with him as a parent.

I do give my child time out if he is naughty but firstly he gets a warning.  If it is something more severe, he gets no tv or wii/playstation.  We give him a system for earning toys back to play with.  Another thing is he does not get out to play with his friends.  Again depends on what he has done and the situation.

Answer 3

Sorry, but i am not a fan of smacking. I believe it just creates violence and when the kid goes to school he will hit someone else when he feels he is in the right because thats what heppens to him when he has done the wrong thing. You should try either taking a favourite toy away for a period of time or use incentives. I have a 5 year old boy as well as a 4 year old girl. They are aware that i will be taking things away from them if they are naughty and if they have done something good then they recieve a sticker on their placemat or poster. Dont send them to their room as well, as they would not mind this after a while because they end up playing with their toys anyway. Good luck as i know it can be a difficult time.

Answer 4

that isn't good for a punishment that is bad peranting.

if he is naughty just take his favourite thing away and leave him in his room for an hour and o up to him and say are u sorry for what u did.

and usely u have to spend alot of time with him just for him to settle down and to get newest to u or take him for a walk in a park with ice cream kids love it :)

if your still having problems ask any one with experience or just look on google

Answer 5

I don't think it is a good way of punishing him. Send him to his room or take away sum of his toys, or even put him on the naughty stair. Smacking ten times is a bit OTT

Answer 6

no he is too old to be spanked (do you get some kind of buzz out of it or something)

if you think ti is necessary to dicipline him at this age than you are doing something wrong in the way you are raising him

what on earth is he doing that makes you think he desrves this?

Answer 7

It depends..............Is it working or is he just repeating the same bad acts over and over because then what you are doing is pointless just take something that he really loves away from him and see what happens that can also be a favorite activity that he loves to do too U child abuser lol

Answer 8

Absolutely, but as they get older they learn that if you spank them or slap them and they tell one of there teachers at school, they have the right to call Child Protective Services and you could be visited by the people from Child Protective Services.  You could be arrested and your child could be taken away from you to avoid future harm to the child.  These are all possibilities of what "COULD" happen.  Personally, I see nothing wrong with what your doing.  You could also take away one of the child's favorite things for a week or make them sit in a chair facing a corner and call it a time out.

Answer 9

Although it is not illegal to smack a child in the UK, (only if any punishment causes visible bruising, grazes, scratches, minor swellings or cuts can you face action), 10 times is an excessive amount and is bordering on abuse.

You need to find other ways to discipline your child because if you are smacking him that much and he still won't be good, it's obviously not working!!

Try talking to him and make him understand that what he is doing is wrong, and maybe take his favourite toy away as punishment, telling him he can have it back when he's calmed down and apologised.

I know it's hard at this age, but smacking is NOT the answer.

Good luck

Answer 10

no

i was spanked when i was younger often for things i didn't do and i still get scared when by brother does things wrong.

i think it is illegal now too.

Answer 11

Nope, it doesnt work and its now illegal n the UK.

I think sending them to the naughty corner and taking a away like things, favorite toy, not being allowed sweet Etc. works a treat, dont be soft on them or to harsh.

Answer 12

At least you are questionning your behaviour, I see you have asked this 3 times on yahoo questions, so part of you must think it's wrong, which is a good start.  This is a bad way to punnish a child, it doesn't teach him anything and it doesn't stop anything - if it worked you wouldn't need to do it any more would you?  Please go to local library, it is free to join, and look up some books on parenting, it may really help you - you obvioulsy are out of control and need some help with your parenting skills, please don't hit your little boy any more.  Please look at this site it might help -

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/Community/Fo...

Answer 13

you know what, if he barfed on the floor. dont smack him. ask if hes sick and do medications or so. if he took a knife and did something bad. he needs more. if he took a crayon and drew on the wall. smack him 10

Answer 14

they say no nowerdays, but i dont see a problem with it... when i was naughty i used to get my pocket money stopped, that was devastating, lol. i got a smacked bottom when i was really naughty.

Answer 15

You are teaching him that violence is correct, would you hit an adult ten times? Talk things out with him, let him know that there are rules he must obey, punish him in other ways - if he really does deserve punishment. Don't shout eitherm - it will get you nowhere. Talk in a calm but very firm voice and he should respond better.

Answer 16

No.  Firstly it teaches him that violence is okay.  Secondly it teaches him that you have no patience and alternative way of dealing with bad behaviour and he may follow this example.  Thirdly, it doesn't really explain to him WHY he is behaving badly, you need to explain what he has done wrong.  Fourthly he will come to expect this and it will not mean anything after a while.  Fifthly, it doesn't leave him with any feelings of respect for you, he could even start to hate and resent you.  Sixthly, it generates a really bad atmosphere of bullying to live in and sends bad vibes all round, which will effect everything in your lives.  Seventh, you may actually harm him. Eight, you could have your child taken off you by child protection, nine, oh I could go on and on and on, there are a million reasons why physcial voilence is NOT the answer.  could you enquire whether there are any parenting skills classes in your area, they would probably explain it a lot better and it may be of real help to you bringing up your son.  Try this site or similar that may help you understand why it is very wrong to parent this way -

http://www.parentingpeople.co.uk/index.h...

Answer 17

I as a teen just think its cruel and he has full right to phone child line, you'd be better off leaving him in a room on his own with nothing to do, to starve him of attention

Answer 18

It is illegal in most States and you can have him removed from the home. I appreciate that when you ( and I) were growing up, spanking was accepted. But it isn't accepted now and will land you in serious trouble.

besides, I was spanked all the time when I was growing up. It never deterred me from doing the wrong thing. Spanking doesn't really work.

Answer 19

most people think that that is child abuse but it always worked for me. my mom would spank me, ask me what i did wrong then sit me down in a chair in the corner and it actually worked. after she would ask me about what i thought about if it was good i would be allowed to play if not i would hav to sit back in the corner until it was better.

Answer 20

No No a million times no!  Are you a very young mother?  it might be an idea to get some help with your parenting, there may be some free classes near you ,please ask somebody you are abusing your child and it is way out of order.

Answer 21

I think it should be compulsory for every parent to attend good parenting classes, then situations like this wouldn't occur.  Poor little kid, he doesn't stand a chance with a start like this.............  I hope for your own sake and your little boy's that somebody reports you and he is temporarily taken away from you until you are educated in ways to parent without violence.

Answer 22

What state are you from? In Missouri, I was told that you could only spank with your hand/ an object no bigger than your open hand.  I have tried and tried with my son...I have found that taking away something he really likes usually works better for me.

Answer 23

i would use another method,,,,, put him on the bottom step of the stairs and tell him why you have sat him there is he comes off that step put him back on it eventually he will sit on it till his time is up i go by my sons age he is 2 so i sit him on the step for 2 mins it works or put in place something like take his toys away or which ever you treat him to. and get a behaver chart and stars if he is good he gets a star and if there is stars for everyday he will get a treat at the end of the week

Answer 24

No because you are teaching him that when he upsets you it is okay to hit. SO when someone upsets him what do you think he is going to do to them?    Hit. SO no there are so many other ways to disapline. Ten times becomes child abuse. Do you want to be hit ten times on the rear?

Answer 25

I was smacked when I was a kid.  It just made me misbehave even more and I hit the other kids because I thought it was okay if they had been bad!  Even now I have violent tendencies and I really wish I had had a childhood where my dad hadn't hit me or my mum, I'm sure I would be calmer.

Answer 26

Well,personally i think its wrong to hit anyone a child or adult or animal etc.

Its bullying,and also its shows that your temper gets better of you,and the only reaction is to hit out.

You need to find another way.

Isn't it illegal now anyway in most places?

As someone who was beaten black and blue on daily basis as a child for just breathing,it was awful,but at least i was noticed.

You could lose the child if someone reports you,after all if you did it to an adult that would be assault at the very least.

Good luck :0

Answer 27

If I could get hold of your identity I would report you for child abuse.  Have you seen those distressing adverts from the NSPCC about child abuse, small children living in fear of their parents - well that is how your poor little boy feels, he is only SIX for goodness sake, he is learning, he is bound to make mistakes, he needs to be talked to and supported and loved not smacked and abused.  This is about you losing control and not having the intelligence or education to deal with parenting problems.  You need to get some parenting skills quick sharp before you ruin this poor little child's life.  Please stop it now.

Answer 28

The old over the knee spank over and over seems unneccessary to me... especially for a 6 year old.

I have a 5 year old daughter, and it has never even crossed my mind to do that - it seems like that form of punishment is to humiliate rather than discipline.

Im not saying Im against a little smack on the bottom or hand - I think its wrong that in the UK parents are actually breaking the law if they do this.  I do think that you ought to be careful as you may damge your son mentally by doing this continuously - and many people would decipher your behaviour as abusive.

Answer 29

10 times - wow, that's harsh.

Some children find it hard to know the difference between right and wrong, so when you are smacking your child does he actually know *why* he is being smacked?  

If you are not telling him the reason you are smacking him, he probably won't understand exactly what he's done wrong and will do the same thing again and again.

Next time that in your eyes your son has done "really bad things", TELL him that doing whatever it was was very naughty and has upset you and not to do it again and don't smack him.

When a parent smacks their child (especially to the extent you say are) its a sign the parent has actually lost control of themselves.

Answer 30

smacking a child is teaching them that smacking is ok.i have three children 3 years 2 years and 4 monthes old we have a no smacking polocy in our house although on occasions i have smacked my children.it did not improve their behaviour in any way.we use the norty corner and reward good behavior. Good  honest communication with a child will bring out the best in them.I think we should not judge others parenting skills but i do worry about children that are brought into the world and then get smacked just for being a normal child.we dont get a kickin,or a smack off our bosses at work if we break the rules we get communicated with. Jo frost super nanny books have good parenting tips ,if you need advice(all parents need help especially me at times)and there is loads of sites on the net if you need guidence about smacking your child it is classed as abuse nowadays,something you may want to take into consideration next time you have your child over your knee smacking it. i wish you luck,parenting can be realy hard sometimes.

Answer 31

You shouldn't smack a child. Discipline needs to be enforced but not in that way in my opinion. I don't think you should tell a child they're bad either, instead say, "that was a bad thing to do". Make sure the child understands WHY it was bad, or they will do it again. Plus, always give the child a cuddle afterwards to confirm you're love for them.