I have a three yr old ,who needs help in potty training?

Question

i have tried eveything he just does not like it. any ideas will help thanks.

Answer 1

Relax. Give it up totally for a few months. He just isn't ready. When he does show some signs that he is try buying his favorite tv character underwear and tell him he can't get them wet because they won't like it. Make sure you encourage him every hour or so to try to go. Sometimes they get so busy playing that they forget to go to the potty and oops.Don't rush it and he will learn on his own. Pull ups are not a good idea. They are too hard to pull down for new learners and they absorb and feel just like a diaper. Most kids I know don't like the feel of pee running down their legs, so go with the regular underwear when training.

Answer 2

Try the Elmo Potty training Video or DVD----just let him watch it as often as he wants-don't even comment on it --it may take a few weeks, but he will come around. Meanwhile, relax, boys take longer than girls to potty train--and the more uptight you get about it, the longer it will take.

Answer 3

First, is your child ready?  If you think he or she is capable and they can pull their pants down they probably are ready.  Second, do you have a week straight to work with your child on potty training . . . If so, go to the store with your child and let them pick out a calendar and new big kid underwear . . . Explain to your child that on "this special day" (that the parent picks) they will no longer need pull-ups.  That start day will be the day you throw out (or hide) diapers/pull-ups.  When he or she wakes up that morning they will sit on the potty and put big kid underwear on them.  Every 1 1/2  you will sit them on the potty.  Don't freak . . . your child will have accidents.  If you do this every day for at least 2-7 days your child will be potty trained.  I don't think there is anything wrong with a reward if he or she goes potty (even a drop).  Stickers are great!!!  Good luck!  Don't get frustrated . . . they will rebel!!

Answer 4

Relax.

It's okay.

If he's not interested, he's not interested. Forcing the issue will actually prolong the whole ordeal.

Instead, try casually encouraging potty usage. Perhaps even set up a rewards chart. Everytime he uses it, he earns a sticker of some sort. Enough stickers, he gets something special...doesn't have to be fancy, you know how kids are. Even just telling him he can pick three things at the dollar store would work.

Don't punish or get angry when there's accidents, or when he just simply doesn't want to use the potty. But continue to use positive reinforcement when he does use it, and pretty soon, you'll have a potty trained kid.

Answer 5

rewards really aren't the best approach for your child.  they may work for some people, but the true goal of toilet learning is for the child to learn how to take care of their body for and by themselves.  rewards are an external motivation - they are doing it for you - where the internal motivation and desire to do this for themselves is going to help your child develop better self-care skills in the long run.

your child should be able to:

walk and stand well on his own

be able to pull down and up their own pants

and know when their diaper is wet

a huge help is to have your child be the major player in the diaper changing. give them responsibility for their body.  change your child standing up - lying down is passive, standing is active.  if the diaper is just wet, have them stand in front of you while you're seated in a chair (so you're at eye level), pull down their pants, take off the diaper and throw it away.  then, before putting on a fresh one, have your child try to pee in the potty.  even if it's a quick try, you are building a routine of using the potty and giving them confidence that it is something they can do.

your child being 3yrs old also leads me to some thoughts . . .

1. is there a power struggle happening?  your child may sense that you are trying to control one of the only things he has control over - his body.  

2. does your child have a male role model for toileting?  has he been able to talk with/observe (whatever you're comfortable with) how a man/boy uses the toilet?

3. have you talked with your child about what they don't like about the toilet?  a lot of children are actually scared of the flushing - like it's taking away a part of them down the drain (i've known this to happen).

as others said before, relax and breathe

this is one of the most important milestones in your young child's life and how it is handled now will dictate a lot of their future psychological well being.

try and have fun with the process

i have gone through toilet learning with more than 20 children and it is such a joy to watch them learn to take care of themselves.

Answer 6

Like you, I tried EVERYTHING with my son the sticker/reward charts didn't help or the bribes.  In my opinion, it will happen when he is ready - he might be ready but it could also be a control issue/struggle with you.  The important thing is to have a schedule, such as sitting on potty first thing in the morning, just before snack, after lunch or before bath time etc.  I find that my son didn't want to stop to go to the potty because he didn't want his "playtime" interupted.  If he is watching a movie or playing outside that we will "wait" for him and to go use the washroom.  If he insists that he doesn't have to go, I say again, " its ok, we will wait for you" and then go and help him.  I also wake him up every night at midnight when I go to bed to go potty to avoid wetting his bed.  My son just turned 4 and is still having accidents every now and then but he is getting better.

Answer 7

http://www.amazon.com/Its-Potty-Time-Duk...

I swear it worked for my daughter for aorund her 2nd birthday.  It's filled w/catchy songs and step by step actions, check it out!  It's worth it.

Good Luck!