I have a very dear friend that gave a baby girl ,?

Question

35 yrs. ago and although she never for got her only now she wants to try an find her I think it's to late ?

Answer 1

not for you to say ; It is totally her call and the girl can decide to allow contact or not

Answer 2

it is never to late, my friend is 48 and found his birth parents.

Answer 3

You think it's too late? What could make you think that?

Many adopted women look for their natural parents in their 30s or shortly after they've had children.  It is not at all uncommon.  Your friend should register on any sites related to the state in which she gave up the child as well as CA (many people moved there for jobs).  She should also search google and take advantage of any search angels in the state (most can be reached online).  I found my son by googling his birth date and "adopted" and found his web site this past Spring.  He's 31.

Search angels can often be very helpful because there were many illegal adoptions done prior to 1980.  They also have access to databases that aren't generally available.

Answer 4

Do you really think that it is ever too late?  Hmmmmmmm  As an adopted child, I would want someone to look for me.  I dont want to replace my parents!  I love them.  Curiosity and questions about eveything pertaining to this would make me exhaust ALL resources to find a child or parent especially if there had never been any explanation to me about why a parent gave me up!  I am by the way, an adopted child and I did search for and find my natural family, but my real family is the one I have now!  I was 19 yrs old when I located them.  I have met them a few times.  Although I am glad for that experiance, I am more glad that I have the adoptive parents I have because my natural family is rather strange!  God has a reason for everything!

Answer 5

www.adoption9months2life.com

Also, look around online for "Search Angels". They are out there specifically to provide the service of finding lost loved ones!

Answer 6

I found my birth daughter in 2001, she was 29 1/2. We have a friendship now. She wondered why I waited so long, I said I just felt like it was time. I contacted the adoption agency and left a letter with them, my daughter was not looking for me, so she had not written me, so dead end there. I used locateme.com, for 50.00 I got a long list of all the babies born on my daughters birthday in my state, that was a start, but my sister found a search angel who found her. Go to some adoption boards, google adoption, you can post info, like I'm looking for my daughter/bday/state/do not give all info, like I omitted the hospital, but she knew cause it was on her birth certificate. Good luck to her, she will need your support. Once you make up your mind to look, you go through so many what ifs. It is hard, but worth it in my case.

Answer 7

It is never too late.  My great-grand uncle reunites with our family a few years ago and while it was too late for him to meet his mother of origin, he has a fantastic relationship with his newly found sister.

Answer 8

Better later then never.... but you should prepare her for rejection.

If she was ever bothered by her adoption she may be bitter, she may have accepted as her adopted parents as her only parents.  But I'm sure she never stops wondering and it's worth the try.

Good luck

Answer 9

It is never too late. My dad found his biological mother when he was in his early 30s and they found eachother!

Answer 10

She can go through an adoption registry online (Google it) or through a private investigator with the date of birth, hospital & any other info she has.

I hope it works out!

Answer 11

Yes, it is never too late, some only meet in their fifties. I am sure the daughter would be very eager to meet the mother too!! Try the media, maybe they can help.

Answer 12

Never to late who knows the girl maybe looking for her. She just have to remember the girl may be angry or have loyalty to adoptive parents

Answer 13

I found my first mother when I was 36 and we have a wonderful relationship. It's never too late.

Answer 14

It is never too late.  I was adopted as an infant, and went through my whole childhood and most of my adult life hoping and needing to find by birth mother.  I did successfully reunite, and it was very healing for both of us.  Please support your friend in her decision, regardless of what it is.

Answer 15

why would it be too late? I think you could support her in her efforts and she may find somebody very beautiful someday who she never imagined being able to see again and she can have an amazing relationship with this person who she never forgot but who has also never met her. I have two adopted children and i hope that someday we can all meet those who created them.