I have a very low self es-stem. what can i do to help me?

Question

im only 14! =[

Answer 1

you're awesome, chin up!

Answer 2

why you have self esteem? whats the reason? best thing to do is to think you can do things better than anyone! and think positive, start your day with a smile, it makes your day a good start! and take care of the things you have to, like example: if u have self esteem because you have crooked theeth then go to the dentist and fix em, if u have pimples go to a dermatologist ect ect,... u get my point,, i hope this works out good for u my friend, dont let no one tell you negative things, well actually let them say negative things, let those negative thing go, but just absorb the positive ones!

Answer 3

me too!=[[[[[ and its not getting any better and i belive you cant do anything i think the thing that hurts us is the truth of each other i tell the truth to myself instead of lying which should make me feel better but makes me feel worse so maybe try thinking of one thing you want and try and make it happen and you'll think i actually did, got, or accomplished something

Answer 4

You need to understand that each human has value, including you.  You are bright, intelligent and valuable.  You are 14, you should stop expecting so much of yourself, and just enjoy life now.  Get your self-esteem straightened out before you go to college.  And for Gawd's sakes, go to college.  Education will fix alot of self-esteem issues.

Answer 5

FAKE IT  Don't ever show that you have low self esteem, you will pay for it the rest of your life!  Just figure it out, but most importantly, don't let it get around that you  have low self esteem, trust me, it will dictate the rest of your life.

Answer 6

learn bass

people need bassists

the world opened up for me like that

Answer 7

write down 50 good things about yourself or have your friends/ family write down 10 good things about you that are honest answers. If they any are matching that means you're strong in those areas. Or go pursue in some hobbies such as drawing for example and go show off the picture as if it's the best thing in the world.  

Answer 8

Do not drink! That guys an ***! Im 16 and have had very low self esteem since I was 11. I think I suffer from anxiety too. :/ But it's good to just hang out with friends and get involved in something. School activetys, sports, etc. When I joined orchestra it was the best thing I ever did. I made tons of new friends and they help me out all the time. :]  

Answer 9

Ok, first what you could do is always put yourself up. Like when you wake up in the morning and be like 'i look beautiful!' You can also write down what you feel. Is there someone in your life who always puts you down? Don't listen to them then.You're beautiful and you know it! So don't listen to anyone if they say otherwise. You shouldn't feel bad about your appearance. You are probably going into high school now, and you are probably worried about what others think. Just remember you are beautiful and to be yourself.

Answer 10

If i knew the answer to this question i would help you but i am the same way :(

please answer my question

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Answer 11

I have the same problem im not atractive im not thin and im 16 now i used to be sooooooo low selof esteem i couldnt even have friends cuz i was to embarest of myself. but one day i realized uknow what this is me and i cant change, so what i did was lsot some weight and just went up to some friends even though i didnt want to i forced myself.....and then things started to go from there. and if u dont have aa weight problem then dont worrie about that....but my point is....u gotta force urself to do hings...push urself no matter how much u wanna say no....push urself, anyways ur only 14 u didnt even blossom yet. i didnt eather so give urself some time in the mean time enjopy life as u r!

Answer 12

I used to have a low self esteem, but now i seriously don't give a c**p what people think.  You should really relize that you need to live your life and don't worry what people think or say about you. Don't compare yourself to others or put yourself down- it will help raise your self esteem.

Answer 13

every one feels that way once in a while jus give your self a make over cuz if u look good u feel good it will give very high self-esteem or how ever u spell it lol

Answer 14

Don't worry I was 14 and I have a very low self-esteem too. Self-esteem comes from experience with people. The more you interact with others the more you will be confident in yourself. That's my case. However everyone is different and you can be a different case. Just try to relax. You're still very young and have a long ways to go.

Answer 15

i'm just as bad, concentrate on what things you enjoy or like about youself wheather it's your toes or eyes and find how you can feel confident through them but if your mood starts slipping more and more and you end up having days upon days of feeling low constantly see your GP and explain things to him/her they might end up refurring you to a therapist. but it's a last resort.  

Answer 16

do things that make you feel good about yourself, like getting your nails done. get into lots of things at school, like student council, sports, clubs, etc. make only a few (2-4) very close friends. you can be friends with other people, but don't get as close with them, so that you can avoid getting hurt.

Answer 17

there's not enough time in this world to worry about not being good enough. you are who you are and that's all you'll ever be. it has to be good enough. you have to be good enough. everyone else on this planet are people just like you. you have to realize it's all mental and no one can make you feel inferior. now go dominate grasshoppa.

Answer 18

go out more hang out with friends. talk to people more often like ur age.

Answer 19

liquid courage!!! drink!!

Answer 20

Don t worry about what others think, you would be surprised at the people who you think have high self esteem that really don t.

Answer 21

sweety.. this happens to everyone, trust me, just find the goods things about you instead of the bad things. dont think of your self in bad way. i know its hard, but just try. GOOD LUCK

Answer 22

You are very young and at a time in your life that is extremely difficult for most people. Just know that most people go through this at your age, whether they show it or not. My advice is to stay active, exercise, and concentrate on educating yourself. When you become older and you are in great shape, and educated, you will have a leg up on everyone else. Always aim high in your goals and never settle for less than you deserve. Surround yourself with positive people and dont worry about what others think. Good luck to you

Answer 23

I hear ya. I have low self es-stem and im only 14 also.

ehhh

Answer 24

When you are 30 you will forget what gave you low self-esteem at 14.  You will realize that it really didn't matter much in the scheme of life.  Start exercising and in about one month you will start to feel more confident.