I have a very rude too be mother in law,she hates me i really dont know why? ?

Question

She does not like me coz im working,she wants a girl who has just done her schooling,who is not independant,where as i am not like that,im working holding a good job,my boyfrnd and me are happy together,but she goes on nagging with me,i dont do anythg to her,infact i stay calm when she yells at me,and my frnd does not know who to support,he does not like to hurt his parents as well as me,what do i do to please her?

Answer 1

WELL I HOPE YOU BOTH ARE NOT LIVING WITH HIS PARENTS IT WILL ONLY GEY WORSE,,,IN TIME WHEN SHE RELIZES THAT YOU LOVE HER SON,N YOUR NOT GOING ANTWERE,,SHE WILL LET UP,,YOUR VERY SMART TO HAVE YOUR OWN JOB,,AND SHE SHOULD B PROUD THAT YOUR NOT ONE OF THESES GIRLS OUT HERE THAT GET MARRIED AND NEVER WORK,,N STAY HOME N GET FAT,,,THEN SHE WOULD HAVE A RESON TO SAY NASTY THINGS ABOUT YOU,IF I WERE U I WOULD JUST LET WHAT EVER SHE SAYS GO IN ONE EAR N OUT THE PTHER,,N PLEASE DONT LIVE WITH HIS PARENTS,,,PEACE

Answer 2

Mothers never want to give up their sons. No woman is good enough for their son. This is very normal. I am in hopes that your boyfriend does in  fact stand up to his mother for you. Hopefully after you are married she will back off some and in time become a friend to you. Just try and not do things that you know will enrage her. That will not be easy but will help matters some. Once she finds out her son is very serious about marring you, she may let up a little bit. I know it will be hard but the nastyer she gets try being that much nicer to her. When she sees that being nasty is not going to work she will give up on that. It may take a while but it does work  and very hard to do. You are a strong person I can tell. Good Luck.

Answer 3

If someone nagged at me and got up in my face about my job, I'd knock them on their *** and I'd be telling that boyfriend if he cannot stand up to his whiny *** mom he can kiss my ***.

Answer 4

Let's hope he's not a mommie's boy, and stands up for you. If he is one who is still attached to his mother's apron strings, leave him and move on. This kind of problem will be there forever.. and his mother will continue to be possessive as you have taken away her darling boy....

Answer 5

I also have problems with that.  

Well, if it starts like that you will never be good enough for the *****.  You'll be too skinny when pregnant, then your milk will not nutritious enough for the baby, then you will be just useless if it takes you a few weeks to recover.  My mother-in-law reckons she was back at work within a week.  She brainwashes her sons with that legend.  She is a mere *****. Her boys are now single again, both dumped by exhausted girls trying to please.

Keep your good job and dump the yelling witch.  You can really find a better man.  She abused her son and he will have permanent fear about and will never protect you from her as he is too scared himself.

Answer 6

how often do you have to see her?

Answer 7

You should talk to her personally about what she dislikes about you, and try your best to explain it to her. However I think you may already know what she wants in a future daughter in law. Its ok, mothers tend to think that their sons are god's most perfect creations... if she doesnt see eye to eye with you. Its ok most in laws are imperfect

Answer 8

I don't know where your from but why does this woman think she can yell at you?!! Maybe you should tell her to please be more respectful to you and not yell at you. And accept you for who you are. Just be yourself. She'll get over it someday.  

Answer 9

He's her baby and she doesn't want to let him go. It doesn't matter if you fit all the criteria you just said she wants, she'd still hate you. Unfortunately this is not uncommon and she may or may not ever calm down and decide that she likes you. the important thing is to watch how your boyfriend treats you in relation to it. If he is saying she's right and getting on your cse then its time to find a new boyfriend. If he tries to avoid most of the confrontations, stands up for you, and tells you that what she is saying is wrong then you have a keeper. You do not want to end up with someone whose loyalty is always to their mother instead of you. At least you know this before you got married to him and you have time to see how he is going to treat you in respect to her over the long run. Do NOT expect it to get any better after marriage though. It may or moy not over time but expecting it and being disappointed could put you in divorce proceedings while understanding it may never change and being pleasantly surprised if it does will just make you happier. Good luck and sorry you are stuck in this all too normal situation.  

Answer 10

make a choice!

mom & dad won't always be there!

Answer 11

Don't take it personally. She should not be rude if she really respected you. However, you want to be the better person, so don't let her get to you. But just for your info, I took a Psychology class, and being passive drives people insane. Maybe, she wants you to blow up, but don't just be cool. And if you really think you can't handle it, ask your boyfriend to talk to her. If she cares for him, she should respect his wishes and respect you. But whatever you do, don't try to talk to her about it because it probably won't work.   I wish you luck. Be strong:)

Answer 12

just please her if you care about your boyfriend - this will make your boyfriend love you more

Answer 13

how long you want to keep on pleasing her like that.... just kill her....

Answer 14

Don't let her get to you ive  been married for nearly 20years and my mother in-law does not like me either for some reason I haven't done any thing to her but if she can have ago at me she will and my hubby says nothing ive learn ed to switch off from her I no I'm not perfect but shes not either its her loss for not getting to no you as a person do what you do now stay calm that what she might want you to start to shout and that's when she will have won so do what I do grin and bare it good luck

Answer 15

Trust me there is not a whole lot you can do. My mother in law was the same way, but when she realized not she could say or do would break us up she backed off a little. We have been together very happily for 15 years. Good luck and hang in there it will get a little better. Also your husband will notice how bad it upsets you and if he's a momma's boy like my husband he will side with you eventually. It only took my husband 12 years lol.