I have a very smart4 year old, but he is very cocky and does not listen I need help?

Question

my 4 year old son is very smart, i am starting to think that he knows to much as a 4 year old. My problem is that he is very cocky, talks back doesnt listen and all i do is yell. I cant handle him and I need some extra help here. I have 3 kids and he is my oldest, he get enough attention but he just doesnt listen and when i tell him to do something he tells me NO and that i cant tell him what to do. If i punish him by giving him a timeout he wont go, I dont wanna hit him but I'm really sick and tired of yelling and wasting my breathe. What can i do?

Answer 1

time out works wonders, just make sure that he knows you are punishing the behavior, you still love him, but not the behavior. and you have to be consistant, the reason you need to nip it now, if he is the oldes, the other children will think that if he gets away with so can they, (the you have an even bigger problem) it is not going to better overnight, but be consistant. I think the rule of thumb for time-out, is 1 minute for each year, 4 minutes may not seem like a long time, but a 4 it is forever.( ignore the screaming ) it will happen. but screaming is no good when there is no audience.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel my 3 year old is exactly the same, the naughty corner just got laughed at and shouting just didnt work. So what i now do is when he is naughty i tell him no in a calm voice, then if this doesn't work i pick him up put him in the naughty spot, and if he comes off before i have asked him to i just ignore him. He hates this, and has learnt that being naughty just gets him ignored now, where as before when i shouted at him he still got the attention.

Answer 3

Pick him up, under your arm, and put him where you told him to go. If you put him in timeout then he goes to timeout. If he kicks and screams and tries to come out, make it longer.

Don't yell. Simply MAKE him do what you say. You are the parent here, he's a 4 year old. Either he walks to his room like a big boy when you tell him to go, or he is carried there like a little baby (and say that to him as you take him there). His choice. But not going is not one of the options, so don't give him the opportunity to make it one.

Answer 4

if i were u i would spank him, or take away his favorite toy or something, or say if u dont behave im gonna get the coocoy to come and take you away

Answer 5

Take away something he likes,when he tells you no. Tell him he will not get it back for 1 hour be it TV or a fave.tape or toy. Do this every time he does something wrong. You could also tell him he is the oldest and needs to set a good example for his brothers and sisters. Good luck,sounds like you need it:)

Answer 6

he is 4 and you are the adult. Make him go to time out. Drag him there and keep taking him back. Don't give in. Being smart has nothing to do with it. He is rude and showing you no respect. If you can't control him now do you think it will get any better as he gets older. You are the parent. Take away tv, take away toys, take away activities. but punish him

Answer 7

no offense but you need to spank his butt. because yelling will never work it will just get you more mad.  so just try it if it don't work don't  spank him anymore. when i yell it does not bother my kids.  so when i spank them it works. i don't spank my kid often