I have a wedding scheduled for next year. My fiance's sister is the maid of honor is pregnant.?

Question

She became pregnant after I had scheduled the wedding. Should I change the date so she can be in it? Would I be wrong to keep the same date that was scheduled?

Answer 1

well it all depends on when she is due & how far/close it is to the wedding scheduled for next year. be sure to have a back up person who is already going to attend the wedding to be ready to be the maid of honor if your fiance's sister can not make it for whatever reason so that your wedding turns out to be the way you hope for it to be.

Answer 2

well..you can't plan your wedding around others..she can still be in it as long as her due date isn't around that time. depends when your wedding is. If it is and she is important to you and your fiance, then yes you may wish to change the date.

Answer 3

I would keep the same date, you don't work your wedding around others.  Its your wedding even if no one can come, the most important person is your fiance, if he can't come then you reschedule the wedding not for anyone else.

Answer 4

If you want to earn major points with your fiance's family, talk to his mom and his sister and get their opinion.  

Answer 5

Before you decide anything ask her how far along she'll be on your wedding day.  Also is the wedding in the same town where she lives, and if not, is it more than hour for her to travel?  Also see if she still wants to be in it.  They make nice maturity dresses, and you shouldn't have to change your date because someone got pregnant especially if you've put down deposits and signed contracts.

Answer 6

It depends on how much you have already booked for that date.  If you have not paid any deposits and it's just tentative anyways, then change it.  But if you have booked any thing like the church, the reception location, photographer, etc...they usually book quickly and rarely change dates without a fee.

It would be nice to change as his family would think you were a doll, but if the date is a special date to you, keep it.

Answer 7

One of my bridesmaids is pregnant. I dont see why its a big deal, pregnancy is a natural part of life. No one will care. Well I have heard of selfish brides kicking bridesmaids out of the wedding party for being pregnant, which is absolutely pathetic. So I'm glad to hear thats not an option! :)  

Answer 8

I think you would look nicer or more behaved and more likley an Angel to your fiance's family if you resheduled it

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Answer 9

seeing as how shes the one luging around the baby it should be her decision if she thinks she can do everything you need her to do. I'd ask her how comfortable she feels about it all and take it from there.

But I don't see why her being pregnant would disqualify her as a MOH. My MOH is 5 months along now and will have a 7 month old when we get married. No biggy.

p.s Scarlett....that's exactly what the bridesmaids do. It might be time to pick up a "bridemaids 101" book.

Answer 10

if she is married to the father of her child, i see no reason why she can't be pregnant in your wedding, if she is ok with it

it wouldn't bother me at all if it were my wedding, my pregnancy, or my daughter getting married, as long as she is married to the father of the baby... if not, then i would consider either changing the date, or finding another maid of honor, because you don't want people talking about it during your big day

Answer 11

No its your day and she will understand

I was pregnant and chief bridesmaid in my sister in laws wedding and all was fine

Answer 12

she still can i was 6 months pregnant when i was the maid of honor in my sisters wedding look for a empire waist line as far as a dress goes. they look great on everyone. They also are whats in style right now so they will be easy to find. And you can buy one now that will still not be to confining for the mom to be come the time for the wedding. oh and congrats on getting married

Answer 13

you may ask you fiance to ask her sister if she is okay with current dates then you may perform your marry ceremonies according to scheduled other wise vise verse  

Answer 14

Every dress manufacturer makes maternity bridesmaid dresses.  She's not grossly disfigured... she's pregnant. :)

I would include her, but make sure she wants to stand up for your wedding.

You could always have her be your personal attendant.

Answer 15

When exactly is your wedding, and when is she due? There are pregnant Maid of Honors all the time. Why can't she still be in it?

Answer 16

I would keep the date, especially if you've already paid any deposits. You have no idea what is going to happen during her pregnancy - some women are put on bed rest, and she wouldn't be able to make it earlier. Or there are other complications and people just can't travel. If you make the date later, well, she's going to be busy with a new-born, and that won't be good either.

Just keep the date, and if things work out she'll be there. There's no reason not to have a pregnant MOH if she is up to coming. If things don't work out, then go visit her and her new child and give her a DVD.

Congratulations!

Answer 17

Will she still be pregnant or will she have just have had a baby.  Most people don't mind being pregnant and in a wedding.  I had 2 MOHs (my sisters) and 1 bridesmaid- after I asked them to be in the wedding, one of my sisters and my bridesmaid got pregnant.  They were both almost 7 months pregnant at the wedding.  We looked around and found dresses that still worked on all three girls, I just got the two pregnant girls flats, they were fine!  Also, my sister-in-law was in a wedding 2 weeks before her due date and had a huge preggo belly, everything worked out.  I'd talk to your maid of honor and see if she still feels comfortable being in the wedding being pregnant (or with a baby), but it isn't usually a big dea.

The 2 girls furthest from me were 7 months pregnant, everything worked! :-)  Hope this helps!!

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Answer 18

i would keep the same date bc her baby could be born b4 ur wedding or after  

Answer 19

Keep the same date! If she's going to be pregnant during the wedding because of dress size changes I'd say make her pay for her dress size changes. If she'll have the baby by the time you get married than don't worry about her baby. Tell her though if she wants to focus on the baby than it's fine to drop out of the wedding.  

Answer 20

I was already at a wedding that 1 of the bridesmaids couldn't attend because she was pregnant

If it was just anyone I would say no, but it IS his sister, so I would say talk it over w/ him & suggest the possibility and see what he thinks

Answer 21

You are not obligated to change the date. It would certainly be a nice gesture.

I'd ask yourself these questions:

How important is that specific date?  Does it have some sort of symbolic meaning to you and your fiance?

How much money would you be out if you had to change the date?

How many other peoples schedules would be affected by your changing it?

What does your fiance think?

What does his family think about it?

If it comes out that it'll be a big inconvenience either financially or scheduling wise for everyone else.  Then you shouldn't, or at the very least you have an excuse for why you can't.  If fiance and/or his family are wanting you to change it...you probably should.

You could also look at ways to give FSIL a role in the wedding or special mention in the programs even if she's not standing up for you.

Answer 22

She'll be fine for one d**n day. Besides, there'll be plenty of people around to help her with the baby through the day. Just don't expect her to organize a lot of stuff for you because she's going to be exhausted! I had a friend who interpreted 'bride's maid' as 'maid'. She wanted us to organize bachelorette parties, showers, etc. Hey, you're the one getting married, that stuff's YOUR job. Just give her a dress and tell her to show up. Congrats on your wedding!