I have a weird feeling my supervisor is going to ask?

Question

if she can visit my mom (she's sick) in the hospital.

I dont feel comfy with this, how do i deny her request

Answer 1

You should let the supervisor pay a short visit. explain the situation that your mom has speech difficulties and might not want strangers to visit.. but you should not deny the supervisor a short visit.. probably in the presence of the nurse. or you two go together.. maybe she has more understanding than you think.. maybe something like this happened to her own mother.. and she knows the etiquette and won't stay for longer than a few moments.. she won't expect your mom to talk. she will probably just take some flowers and wants to say some words of encouragement to your mom.. Your supervisor should be briefed by you in a polite way about the health situation of your mom.. if she understands how your mom is doing and still would like to visit. I am sure she has been in a similar situation herself before and knows how to behave herself.. you can't and shoudn't deny her the request.. you should only tell  her the facts about your mom's weak state of health and her speech impediment.. but I am sure your mom will understand if you explain to her that this is your supervisor and that she just wants to say hello.. and the supervisor if she goes she will only bring a get well card and maybe touch your moms arm to encourage her and to wish her a speedy recovery... I know that is the best way as i am a health care worker.. you should tell your mom and you should tell the supervisor what to expect.. talk to both.. and I am sure a 5 minute visit is okay and won't upset your mom.. the supervisor won't stay longer than that....

Answer 2

"The doctors don't really want anyone besides close family visiting her, right now. I'll let you know when they do."

The doctors get blamed (not you), plus the second sentence makes you sound open to the idea (so you don't sound like a jerk denying your supervisor completely).

Sorry to hear your mom was on life support. I'm glad she's getting better!

Answer 3

If she asks just tell her your mom isn't taking any visitors, but it is nice of her to offer to visit.  Tell her she is heavily medicated and doesn't communicate very well right now and doesn't want visitors.  That she is asleep most of the time and that is what is best for her.

Answer 4

Tell her that your mother is still getting over her problem (which seems to be true from what you told us).  Tell her that maybe when your mother is back at home, then guests and visitors will be welcome.  Best wishes to your mother! :)

Answer 5

That's weird, why would she want to?  You can say your mom's really not up to visitors or that having visitors in the hospital makes her nervous/uncomfortable.  But would your mom enjoy this visit?  If so, you don't get to decide for your mom.  Maybe she's just sniffing around because she wants to send something to your mom from the whole office???

Answer 6

I'm sorry about your mom.  

If the supervisor asks, tell them the doctors are not allowing visitors other than direct family.

I'm sure it's the truth, if she just recently got off of life support, she is probably still in ICU, and NO ONE gets in there except family.

Answer 7

Express your appreciation for the gesture and tell her when your mother becomes well enough for visitors you will let her  know.

Answer 8

Tell her thank you but that your mom really doesn't want any visitors at the hospital.

Answer 9

"I know you mean well, but it is more of a personal/family situation. I will give her your best wishes."

Something like that.

Answer 10

Why, were you lying?