I have a weird problem with showing public displays of affection..

Question

Its weird because for as long as i can remember I've been like this. Whenever my friends or even MY FAMILY wants to like put their arm around me or anything like that I get really uncomfortable; so uncomfortable that I sometimes have to tell the to stop. I feel like a total weirdo and everyone one always asks about it. The funny thing is that recently while I was dating someone, I had no problem with holding his hand or any other PDA. If you have any clue what may have caused this or how I can stop it please let me know it would mean a lot. I just want to feel normal.

PS- Please no mean or rude remarks i really am asking. Oh and no i was not raped so don't say that please.

Answer 1

it is normal for u to act like that with ur family... i am like that.. but with my boyfriend i dont have a probblem with it.. and i believe it is because u want people to know u got someone in ur life.. and that u can do that because of the relationship u have with him.. and u are normal..

Answer 2

maybe u afraid public keep eye on u when u family put hand u like public what this cant walk alone u mind say that so are not comfortable with it

so when go on with u bf u feel comfortable because u want public attention on like they will saying what a lovely couple

so it is normal dont worried about that

Answer 3

hm...when people have a problem showing public displays of affections, they usually have a form of autism (or something of that sort). truthfully, you probably have a very mild form of it, but it still affects different aspects of your life. im not saying you are autistic, but it might be a factor.

hope i helped!

Answer 4

My daughter used to hate being sung to, happy b-day or anything for that matter.  We're not a very touchy feely family actually, and I was noticing her with her new boyfriend and they're hugging and kissing and so on.  So I don't see what you're experiencing as a problem because you've proven it's not with everyone just your family and friends who you don't have an intimate relationship with. You are not incapable of affection but you obviously feel affection is appropriate with a boyfriend but not neccessary with family and friends.  My daughter feel awkward hugging us as well as friends.  It doesn't mean she hates us!  If this is really bugging you talk to your doctor he/she may refer you to a councellor of somesort to speak with. All the best!

Answer 5

i can relate to how you feel, because i am the same way... if you love someone sometimes its hard to put your feelings out there.