I have across from my street a very annoying 10 year old girl?

Question

I have always loved kids but this little girl is getting to me. She has just started coming over all of the time to play with my three year old. I think there is just to much of an age difference. We just adopted a dog who is really good around kids but for some reason our dog does not seem to like her so i have a rule that she is not allowed in the house. This does not stop her though she will ask non stop and not listen to me when i say no and explain why. While me kids are napping she will go around and knock on my windows and bang on my door to come in. She will sit on my porch for hours waiting for us to come out and if my doors are not locked she will just walk right in even doing this when i am not home and forget to lock them. Any advice or similar situation?

Answer 1

sometimes you have to be a ******, and tell either her or her parents off.  She is 10 years old she can take it.

Answer 2

Set up a "schedule" so to speak, on when she can come over, and for how long. Like, on Tuesdays and Fridays from 3-4. If she happens to break the schedule, she can't come over for one day that she was aloud to. As in, if she came over on Wednesday, she couldn't come over Friday.

Answer 3

The next time she comes over, take her back to her house, knock on the front door, and when her mother answers, explain that she was at your house and she doesn't belong there. Tell the mother that she is disturbing your child (regardless of if it's true or not), and that you would prefer that she wait until she is invited.  If she comes over again, you must tell her OUTRIGHT that she is not welcome, or, in a softer way, tell her that you are busy and she cannot be there. After a couple of times, she'll grow tired of it. Don't give in, and don't get mad. Just be consistent and get bored.

Answer 4

Talk to her parents and let them know what rules you have set in your home and if they do not help you with teaching her to respect the rules, ban her from your house all together.

Let her know that she can come and play twice a week for one hour and then she needs to go home.  Tell her to knock softly on the doors and not the windows and that she cant just walk into your house. If she wants to play with a dog she needs to get her  parents to get her one.

I always talk to my childrens friends parents and let them know that I have an open door policy on communication about my children.  If they feel they are over too much or  that they are being disrespectful in their house or yard I WANT TO KNOW IMMEDIATLEY!! And they welcome this.  I always get good things said about my children, but from time to time they act up and I am informed and I handle it.  Tell her parents that they need to be more involved in what their daughter is doing and not be critical about what you have to say regarding your house.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I agree with musicfish, thats a good idea.  hopefully the mother will listen and care enough to keep her kid at her house.  When she is banging on doors or windows, call the mother so she can see what her child is doing, if the mother doesn't care, tell her you will be calling the police if her child is not removed from your property.  Banging on every door and window in your house isn't appropriate, and your kids shouldn't have to be bothered during their nap.  give your kid the hose, and every time the girl comes back on your property after being asked to leave, have your daughter soak her, then when the mother complains, "oh I'm sorry I'll have a word with my daughter about not using the hose (that way it seems like you 3 yr. old was just having fun, not you telling her to do it), and could you please ask your daughter not to come over here and bother my daughter anymore, she's really not welcome here unless she is invited? "  Also you could try getting one of the alarms that is like the magnet and when the door is opened it will go off until it is closed, and it put it on the door she come in when you are not home, then go out a different door, and it will scare her and maybe she won't let herself in anymore.  If she is at your house unwelcome (outside or possibly even inside) completely ignore her, right down to giving your daughter her snack or lunch and not offering or giving her anything.  If you make her feel bad or not wanted there (she'll be upset) but she will realize that she doesn't like it there anymore.  Do some really fun stuff with your daughter while she is there unwanted and if she tries to join turn away and continue playing with your daughter, and you could try saying once or twice, we're not playing with you go home, or you not allowed her right now I'm playing with my daughter.  The only problem is that whatever you do is going to have an affect on your daughter, so talk to your daughter about it so she knows that it is not ok to treat people this way, but your neighbor is not respecting your home and rules so you are trying to show her that she needs to respect boundaries.    

Answer 6

I had a similar situation. my neighbor's daughter would come over just to play with my daughter (same age). Then she started sleeping over two - three day's in a row and then when I was trying to handle my kids and every thing she would walk right in like it was her house. I would tell her mom that she comes in rudely. Take her back home. and good luck.

Answer 7

Do we live on the same street?  The little girl I an talking about does the same things, except she goes as far as to run up and hug my husband when she sees him outside.  As far as age difference, my 11 and 9 year old play with the 5 year old across the street, but his mom and I are best friends and most of the time, we are at each others houses while the kids are playing.  Also, the 5 year old is very mature for his age.  I would suggest telling her that she can come over to play at certain times only.  If she comes over any other times, tell her she can not play.  If she keeps on after you tell her, call the social services in the area and explain the situation.  You may think the mother isn't caring of her child, but be certain you don't imply neglect.  Tell them your concerns that this child is obsessive with you and your family.  Talk to the mother and the father just so you can say you have done that, and taken the normal approach, even if it won't help.  Keep a log book for a month to give social services exact times, dates and circumstances as well.  It is a slow process, but in the long run, you will feel better for helping the child.  Good luck!

Answer 8

just avoid her ,shut the curtains & lock all doors.Put a note Do not disturb note on the door.Maybe she will get the hint

Answer 9

Tell her mother the next time her daughter comes barging in, or knocking on the windowns you WILL call CPS on her and find out why she is NOT supervising her 10 yr old.

Better YET talk to her dad when HE gets home and explain you have spoken to the mother already and nothing has changed.He may just put huis foot up the mother's sorry butt.

Answer 10

Sounds to me as if this poor child is deprived of attention.  She is like a sponge and since you gave her a little bit of attention she is going to soak up as much as she can.  All I can suggest is that you report her mother to child protection for neglect, it is all too obvious this child gets no attention.

Answer 11

you should talk to her or build a fence or threaten her with the police cuase she tresspasing