I understand his need to feel connected to his birthparents and in order to do that I can understand why he now feels the need to reject the religion he is being brought up in. I had thought of this as a likely issue to come up. I am not worried about him choosing a different religion and I am not feeling like he is rejecting us. But I do want to continue educating him in our religious beliefs without having to force him into it or make him feel untrue to himself. He is a really smart kid and I don't think bribing him, for instance, would be a good way to try. He understands what he wants and it makes sense to him that he "belongs" with his birthfamily, in a religious way. I also know that if I did "let him" explore his birhtparents' religion that he would feel even more out of place with that right now because there's nothing waiting for him there. I think that could make him feel even less like he belongs. This is a really intelligent and well loved child.
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