I have an 8 year girl that is learning her body.........?

Question

My daughter is 8 years old and is learning her body. For the past year I have caught her MANY times, masterbating. I have caught her with stuffed toys in her panties, as well as her hands and fingers. I know that she is only 8 but she has a B cup sized bra, she has hair in places I don't even want to know about and is starting to shave her legs.

I have told her that her privates are not for that and that it is wrong. I just don't want her getting an infection. I talked to my mom, a LPN and she said that it was normal and that she did it when she was young. I even remember doing it when I was 10, but my mom and dad never knew, so I don't have their talk about it to help me out.

Has anyone been through this with their kids? If so what advise to do you have for me? Please help..

Answer 1

Please don't tell your daughter that masturbating is wrong - that teaches her to be ashamed and insecure.  Have an open talk with her and let her know that it is normal to make herself feel good by touching her private parts, and she should do it in private.  There is nothing wrong with masturbating, and it is perfectly normal, even at such a young age.  Try to give you daughter some privacy, and let her know that you are available if she has questions.

Answer 2

try to find a s*x education tape at the library becuase talking to your kids about s*x and puberty is way different than educating them about it. and that goes for drugs too! your daughter is not going to understand what her body is going through so be calm and listen and educate her! good luck

Answer 3

well i did it to when iwas 8 but when my aunt walked in on me doing it she screamed and put me over her knee naked and started spanking me on my bare but til i cryed and my butt was red and the whole time during the spaking she kept sayin it will give you an infection and if u do it agian you will get the wooden spoon till ur butt bleeds

Answer 4

Sit her down and talk to her.

She's just an early bloomer. Don't tell her that it's wrong, because it's not. But tell her not to do it so often.

Answer 5

Wow, it sounds like your daughter is hitting puberty early. I would suggest sitting down with her and asking her if she had any questions about her developing body, and advising her in the proper way to behave as a young lady (which would be whatever standards you have set).

Answer 6

Try using a book like the AG "Care and Keeping of You" and explaining that there are some things that are private and others that are ok to share... Masturbating is perfectly normal and healthy - but needs to be private. Our female (and male, of course) bodies are wonderful - but some parts need to be kept private... keep in mind that you will be having another kind of talk about her body sooner than you would like and you would like to start building a foundation of trust and openess - so that she will come to you with questions or issues around 'sharing' that body with her boyfriends etc. Explaining what is ok and how we should treat our bodies.. healthy etc. will allow her to explore safely ALONE and perhaps head off the wondering of what actual s*x will be like... kids who grow up comfortable in their own skins, able to discuss s*x with parent(s) will be more likely to stay safe and share openly questions or issues that arise.  If she should get an infection (UTI, bladder etc.) you would want to be able to help her and not have her think something is wrong with her for doing something natural...?