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I have an abusive brother! What do I do?

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My twin, Dustin is always beating on me. We're both 15 years old, and this just started happening recently. My guess is it's either because of our parent's divorce, or because he was recently diagnosed with ADHD and he uses that as an excuse.

He never touches me when anyone else is home, but when my dad's at work, he always finds some way to get mad at me. Sometimes, it's not even when he's mad. It's like he gets enjoyment out of my pain. For example, I was telling my younger brother (He's 11) that I get beaten on every day, after Dustin lashed out on him. I was trying to explain to him that things like this happen every day to me. He was listening and just smiled and said, "I do a good job, don't I?"

I've tried to tell my dad, but the only thing he tells me is that I need to fight back. I can't do that, because whenever I fight back, he comes back at me ten times worse.

It's become so often, that I often find myself grabbing knives and threatening him with them, but he just laughs, because he knows that I won't actually use them. Then, he goes and tells my dad, and my dad tells me that he'll put me in jail for pulling a knife on him. I try to explain that it's self defense, but he never listens.

Sometimes, I tell him that I want to move, because I can't take the abuse any more. He just laughs and says, "Great, now I've got my own room!"

I can't call the cops, because it's considered sibling rivalry, and he's never done anything worse than punching/kicking me? What do I do?

All advice is appreciated!

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  1. 1. After you get all the answers you can on here, forward it to your dad.  

    As for your dad, he should not be blowing this off.  I have been in the exact same situation.  Parents can only go by what their children tell them.  And usually, I find, the guilty dog barks first.  Your brother is going to your dad first, because he is smart enough, even having ADHD, to know that you will get in trouble if he tells first.  Your dad needs a wake up call.  Your brother needs medication to help him because he cannot help what is going on inside him.

    2. How is the relationship with mom?  Could you live with another relative?  Have ytou discussed it with your dad?

    3. If no one is willing to listen or help you on this, go to the police or call DSS.  You need to not wait long.  SOmething serious could happen.  Your brother could use the knife incident as a trial and actually do something outrageous, or you could lose your cool.

    Do not let this slide, you need to act now.  It might seem too dificult, but in the long run, it will be worth the heartache.

    Good luck and try to keep us posted!

    I'll keep you in my prayers!!


  2. if your dad wont listen to you  call your mom , if neither do tell them the next time your brother touches you you will call child protective services and they will take him away.

  3. Yes you CAN call the police.  When he beats on you that is called ASSAULT and it IS against the law.  And since you won't call the police the beatings will continue, he may even put you into the hospital some day or you may wind up stabbing him with one of those knives then YOU will be sent to jail with charges of assault with a deadly weapon or even attempted murder.  

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