I have an issues telling people the REAL me.?

Question

I started a new school and I don't know anyone AT ALL!

I say things that are not the real me, but the first week passed and I haven't said nothing to people about me, because I don't know anyone.

It's almost like I'm not proud of being who I really am. and that is why i say other things.

How can I feel comfortable being my real self?

Answer 1

I would join a school club or sports team. That way your doing something you like, and you will make friends who like the same things you do.  

Answer 2

yep that's the first week of high school for ya!! Get in with someone who looks nice x eg, ask them questions

their name

what other school they went to

any brothers or sisters

what kind of music

any pets

then just randomly talk about these things and other things to them. Just talk cr!p, then after a while you get to know someone then you can talk properly :)

Answer 3

Join the club.

Answer 4

Just do what you do in the way that you do it and don't care what anyone else thinks. Not caring what others think is the key. If they don't like who you are then that's their problem, there are plenty of people in the world that would love to be around whether there are differences or not.  

Answer 5

Building on Searching's remark. For me, I have always put my uni work first, then let people get to know me naturally. It isn't a matter of being proud or not, but of being yourself and letting those who will become friends do so because they appreciate the person you are as well.

And those who don't, then they are the great lumps of the matter-the looosers out in the cold.

Answer 6

A good way is to just concentrate on work...you want to put school first and not your social life.  While you are in class only make comments on things that really interest you.  If people are talking and you dont know anything about it then stfu and dont make a fool out of yourself.  People know a poser because when you describe something you dont know anything about, it just seems off.  Wait for your time.  Sit back and observe other people quietly until you get to know what kind of people they are and who YOU  want to talk to...dont worry about who wants to talk to you and what they think about you.  The right people will be attracted by your aura and your vibe and you will make friends

Answer 7

Nothing is wrong with you.  So please stop being afraid.  You're in a new, stressful situation.  You are scoping out the teachers, your peers, the grounds, and it takes time to get used to everyone and everything around you.  Give yourself a few weeks, even a couple of months to get used to it all.

Being private is also normal and a very good trait.  Being too open and telling too much about yourself can scare other people off and make you seem needy and desperate.  On the other hand, being too closed can run people off because no one can get close to you.  You are starting on learning the fine balance between being open and being too closed, and this takes years and decades to perfect.  No one does it perfectly, so don't worry.  

I would think you probably are proud of who you are, but you simply don't know how you fit in to this new situation.  Don't worry -- you'll find your group; it just takes time.  Right now, you are probably putting on some camouflage by saying things that aren't quite "you" just to see how you'll fit in.  It's normal.

It's just the first week.  You'll be fine.  I promise -- I've been a teacher for 15 years, and am the daughter of a teacher.  You will make friends and in a couple of months you'll wonder why you worried.

Best of luck! :)  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 8

Be with the truth you believe in.

Answer 9

Build your confidence in believing that you are fantastic and be the type of person you want to be.  Be positive about who you are :)

It's scary sometimes showing people who we are in case they don't like that about us and don't accept us.  But the only way to develop close friendships with people you truly like to be with is by showing people who you are and believing that you are the fantastic person you are.  

It can be hard meeting people and being new to a school, but it does get easier :)  Joining a club or group where people share your interests does help, since you immediately share an authentic part of yourself with them in what you are doing :)  

I think people pick up on genuine friendliness, honesty and integrity.  Someone who is honest and confident (not arrogant.. just secure in themselves and therefore secure with others) is someone people tend to appreciate and respect (and like), regardless of whether you are quiet or loud, sporty or artistic, regardless of grades, and other dividors.  These are often the people at school who get along well with many different types of people.. it's like they are really well liked by everyone and are genuinely popular - as opposed to the stereotypically popular people.

Here's a question - who are you really and why are you not proud of showing/telling people that's who you are?  what do you like about yourself, what draws people to you, what do your family and friends appreciate about you, what are you strengths, what makes you wonderful (maybe that sounds corny but I am sure people who know you could come up with a great list!).