I have another freestyle issue with a girl-

Question

there is a girl that watches me everytime i'm skating early in the mornings. she doesn't have any coaches that i know of but she's not a bad skater. the thing is she's alot older and lately when i'm in a lesson she'll copy what i'm working on with my coach and she'll get in the eyeline of him. like today, we were working on double sals and then of course she starts doing her single sal... (she doesn't do axel or doubles) and he said oh she has a good technique watch her... then i'm mad because again she is taking time and attention away from my lesson and so i skated by her later and said you like to copy what i'm doing in my lessons don't you? she just looks at me kind of poed... what can i do about her because i don't like her interfering with my training and trying to grab the attention.

Answer 1

maybe she cant afford a coach. i realise you have probably sacrificed alot for your sport, but not everyone can afford 3 different coaches.

also, ever think maybe she just wants some HELP?

remember when you were a newer skater? didnt you use to watch the better skaters, to see how they did things?

i taught myself to skate, didnt get a coach til i was 14 and went to nationals at 15.

stop being so spoilt, and realise that this girl just wants to learn her jumps/spins/whatever... also, if a girl that has no coach,  and cant yet do a double jump or axel, already has better technique than you, then maybe she deserves some help?

just tell her to skate a bit further away... not everyone is rich and has 3 coaches handed to them on a platter, i had to quit skating after only a year because my family couldnt afford it.

just work together, she needs jump help, you need decent technique...

besides, if she doesnt do doubles or axels yet, then she doesnt ACTUALLY have that much left to work with. dont assume everyone wants to be like you... is she not allowed to do salchows just because you do them too?

sorry, but just get over it.

Answer 2

first things first, talk to her.  in talking to her make sure you are firm, yet not cruel, and somewhat boasting.  Say, "Look, I am trying to train for a competition where I have to do a DOUBLE flip jump.  Do you have any advice for my DOUBLE flip jump?"  Get all in her face about it and maybe she'll leave you alone.  If that doens't work, talk to the coach you trust most and explain how you feel.  He/ she will probably understand.  Good luck!

Answer 3

first off stop being a pre Madonna, just because you can afford to train evey day and have three coaches then good for you, did you ever think maybe she cant afford lessons so she tries to look at other skaters trying to do it on her own. it takes a lot for someone to try and teach theme selves to skate. and you shouldn't be so nasty to her or about this situation, its a compliment not an insult.  

second off she's only copying you because she wants to be like you, she probably looks up to you and would like to be as good as you, so instead of being nasty to her then try and be nice and talk to her and i'm sure you'll find out a lot more about her situation than you think you know.

third off, your coach shouldn't be using her as an example if she's not his student, but if he's that impressed by her technique that he has to say something then maybe you should be copying her.

and i just have to say, you acting like a drama queen and thinking your so good and getting so pissed about something like this is ridiculous, if i ever had someone do that to me, i would talk to her and be nice to her and try to help her instead of being a jerk to her.    

Answer 4

i know this is crazy.

but when your coach says she has a good technique, use it to your advantage and use that in your doubles.

Answer 5

She seems to be a bit of a...hmm...STALKER! Haha. Well, she knows you are better than her.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

First talk you her, just like regular talk ('Hi I'm ....... whats your name")

Then maybe get into talking about skating and asking how long shes been skating for etc. Maybe she would feel intimidated by you if you just came up and said are you copying my lesson. You could ask if she has a coach as well.

Also, maybe look at her posture, it could be helpful.

You could tell your coach you think she may be copying your lesson, or if your not brave enough to say anything, just stare at her in your lesson and he might say something.

Or, she may not be copying you, she might be learning the same stuff as you (teaching herself) and is just watching for entertainment.

Other wise, just ignore her she might not be able to afford lessons.

Answer 7

She might be jealous and might want to be as good as a skater as you are. And if she does have a good technique for a jump, copy it. I dont think she is trying to make you mad, but she is trying to be like you. You might be her role model.

About the no lessons part, she might not be able to afford taking lessons. They can get pretty pricey.

Answer 8

I think I'd be irritated too.  It sounds like she's getting her "coaching" from watching you and others skate and from paying attention to YOUR lessons.  While there's probably not a lot you can do.....you can't say, "Don't watch my lesson, darn it,"  haha....but I guess I don't think it's proper coaching etiquitte to compare you to another skater who is not coached by your coach, or especially not coached by anyone.  I think it would be fine if your coach called over another one of his skaters to demonstrate something, but if this skater has had no formal instruction, maybe it's not the greatest example.

She's probably skating because she likes to skate and wants to learn, but can't afford to pay for lessons.  I guess the best solution, which may not sound appealing right now, is maybe become friends with her.  I know that may seem kind of hard to swollow at first because what she's doing is kind of annoying....that'd be like you going to McDonald's, buying a cheeseburger and she walks by and takes a bite!!  But, if you befriend her, maybe you can teach her a few things, answer her questions and maybe she'll stop shadowing you during practice and your lessons.  Maybe if you're friends, she won't seem as annoying and you won't notice her "sampling" your lessons as much.  Who knows -- you might actually like her and maybe there's a real reason for why she's doing what she's doing and maybe you can help her out....when you have time.  :)