I have been having awful dreams...?

Question

Have you ever had a bad dream where you wake up & you are sobbing? I have been having dreams like this.. the dream is that i am marrying my boyfriend & on my wedding day i find out that he's having an affair, my heart is ripped out & i really feel such an aching horrible pain. It's really weired as i trust my botfriend & don't think he would cheat on me. My ex husband had an affair, but i'm over that now, that was years ago.. but why do i keep having these dreams?? & how do i make them go away?? Why am i so sad in my dreams.. but i am very happy daily?

Answer 1

Sorry to hear you're sad in your dreams.  Clearly, you have suffered from such a betrayal of trust, love, support, and intimacy.  What is less recognized is how lasting these feelings of suffering persist, within one's memories.

Making the dreams go away is more superficial type of healing.  Rather, healing by continuing to experience the dreams, until you are able to stand up and face the situation, perhaps by loving God, and knowing God loves you, is more profound.  Your dreaming conscious is dreaming these feeling because it is afraid, because it feels the suffering.

Being honest with your sadness, and in that profound feeling with which you wake, give some regular prayers for healing of what is a more sensitive part of yourself--the same you that felt devastated so many years ago.

"The Great Divorce," C. S. Lewis,

"Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet,

"When God Writes Your Love Story," Eric and Leslie Ludy, and

"For Women Only" and "For Men Only," Shaunti Feldhahn, are worthwhile.

Good fortune with your love.

Answer 2

I think it could be a down deep fear of yours that it could happen again. The way you make them go away is to face your fear head on. Talk to your boyfriend. You will see the truth in his eyes.