I have been having really uncomfortable nightmares for the past 2 months?

Question

it never fails, EVERY single night i have a nightmare. usually, it involves my ex-stepfather who was a bad guy. he screamed and yelled at us, did hardcore drugs in our garage, grounded us for the stupidest things. he made us feel like we didn't even want to come home. my mom finally left him about 2 years ago, and our lives have gotten better. i don't think about him or anything so why do i keep on having these dreams? i dream that my mom took him back or that he's yelling at me and we get into a huge fight. and then i have other dreams like lastnights, where my aunt stabbed & killed my grandma right in front of me! it was so real and i woke up so upset. and i've been having dreams of my ex boyfriend from highschool which was like 5 years ago. i don't miss him or anything. what is going on? am i crazy????

Answer 1

well what i did when i was having nightmares about this fat indian kid who was stalking me was i made 500 paper kranes and hung them from the ceiling and it actually worked!

Answer 2

Drink one glass of passion fruit juice before you go to bed and you won't have any nightmares. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I promise it works. Just try it, something about the chemicals in passion fruit juice calm you and let you sleep without dreams on any sort.

Answer 3

Your dreams appear rooted in that terrible experience with your former step-father and may be triggered now by stress from something going on in your life.

No, you are not crazy in the least - just normally human.  But you've been through a scarring emotional experience that has left an unfortunate legacy - your mind is 'trained' by that experience to react in a certain way that causes nightmares when uncomfortable events come along or are remembered.

What you describe of his behavior is a terrible thing for a young person to have to endure - it is quite harmful and leaves a scar that does not easily disappear.  It is good that your mother finally rid all of you of his influence and presence - but you've already suffered the effects and they still influence your dreams.

It is likely the traumatic experience with your step-father that ingrained your mind with this painful pattern of dreaming.  It emerges when conflict arises over much of anything now - it is a pathway in your mind that needs to be dealt with so that you will be relieved of this recurring theme.  Now, when you experience stress for any reason it is easy for your mind to retrace the same disturbing path it was trained on during that traumatic time.  

When that happens, all sorts of subconscious recollections can impose on the dreaming process to generate gross exaggerations of fairly ordinary conflicts or interactions that may be on your mind, or just randomly recalled for some reason.  If something generates a concern in your life today, it may spark a dreaming recollection of that awful time - and in the dream it is thrown at you that he's back in full measure.  

As your mind may be dealing with a current concern the dream takes liberties - it uses the familiar former conflict as a 'model' by which you 'argue' out the frustration or issue - and the real 'issue' remains hidden, seemingly decoupled from your dream.  Since this has been happening constantly for two months, review that period of your life for any stressors that may be triggering the dreaming and this response.

Think of your aunt and your grandma - was there ever any visible conflict between them?  It would not had to have been really bad, just friction that came and went.  In fact, the better their overall relationship, the more starkly that would emerge as 'conflict' in the dream.  Then, influenced by the violent tone of your experience with your step-father, it can replay in a fictional, synthesized way that simply denotes that a conflict is in your mind over something around you.  Dreams do exaggerate - that's how they tend to bridge the gap between sleeping and waking states of awareness, hence the graphic violence where no such thing would ever really occur.

Consider too the ex-boyfriend.  No, you may not consciously miss him, but there well could have been some level of conflict with him prior to your parting.  Again, it is the pattern of that activity that provides the back drop when something triggers the dream.  He may be a familiar object of pressure, conflict or torn emotions from that time that you parted.  Whatever it may have been with him somehow resonates with a new event or circumstance today, even in a minor way, and the old pattern returns.

Unfortunately, past trauma causes the mind to dance all around current conflicts - even minor ones tend to be skirted around.  It is as if 'anything but this, I just don't need it'.  In many cases that does little harm during our waking hours - most conflicts and pressures just are not all that important.  But they lay there and the mind needs to vent them - hence the dreaming... but, remember - you 'need no more of this' - and the mind creates a proxy by dreams based on those past things.  The mind also exaggerates at times in great fashion - like your aunt and grandma's conflict.  

Why?  Partly because of the unfortunate pathway already described - it is a warping of reality as the dream manifests.  But it is also an attention getting device by your own mind.  Consider it a call to review what may be bothering you today that could trigger such dreams in the way I have described.  Find those things, face them and deal with them and you should ease the dreaming.

That's part of the problem with a possible way to find relief - and you should consider it carefully in the context that you know of your life and your own feelings.  Take a good look inside in doing so and reach for something more positive for yourself.

The other part is harder.  A concern should be that indeed you have lingering effects from the emotional trauma of that step-father.  He above any other thing you have mentioned stands out as one who may have easily left an emotional gash across your mind.  That has got to be dealt with.  That convenient pathway that your mind uses in the way I've described needs to be removed, rerouted, retrained - however you see it.  

It may fade in time or you may really need to talk it out with someone you trust who will listen and help from experience or training.  Sometimes just talking out the experience with a good friend is enough.  Other times more is needed, perhaps even some professional counseling.  

What happens over time is what is important.  If this just came on with some current stress, think it through.  You mentioned it happening over the past two months - what has changed in your life during that time?  Are there new adjustments or stressors?  Perhaps they will resolve and the pattern will not repeat as viciously in the future.  Things may simply improve and the dreaming pattern may simply diminish and eventually leave you.  

But if it continues regularly, especially if frequently, then you do not need to continue that and need some help to get relief.  A continuance of this distress only prolongs a trauma that you do not deserve and the dreams can worsen.  It will not help you in life but will be a detractor - and rob you of too much.

You must consider these things in the context you understand and think of how the dreaming leaves you feeling.  For certain though, you do not need to suffer on in years ahead, so deal with this as you must to get relief.  You are not 'crazy' - quite the opposite, it is your good heart and mind that are pained by these past affronts and now suffers from something naturally alien to your thinking - painful conflict.  

You deserve the freedom and happiness that relief from the past can bring - reach for it.  I hope this may help in your understanding.

All the best to you for happiness.

Answer 4

maybe you're stressed out? all i could think of is maybe you could do exercise because that may help you have a deeper sleep and feel refreshed when you wake up.

or if that's not the case, you may have Nightmare Disorder or some sleeping disorders. Call a psychologist if it continues. hope this helps.

you might want to got to the site i went to. :D

Answer 5

Seems to me these are the residual effects of having lived in such turbulence.  The step-father's thought about you could prompt such dreams as well as the ex-boyfriend's preoccupation and dwelling on you.  The fear that he may return could also instigate such dreams.  The one about aunt killing grandmother actually indicates that your aunt will benefit, do good to your grandmother.  Though nightmarish, it's meaning bespeaks good. I'm really glad your ma moved on away from that man.  I do wish you well.  If the dream recurs, try to recall within the dream to obviate his conduct by telling him to stop and take out whatever you need to on him, in the dream.  After this I'm sure they'll cease as a conclusion, a resolution with yourself regarding this man has not happened.  So next dream, tell him off with all your heart and God willing these will end.  Good luck.

Regards

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Answer 6

youre not crazy, because if you are crazy, that means i am crazy as well... Every single time i have a dream, some one gets killed in the worst most bloody way possible. but you probably are just harboring some bad memories or feelings from past events, from what you said about your old stepfather, you have got plenty of those from him, i dont know much, but that could be it.

Answer 7

No not crazy just being tormented by the tormentor, Satan.

I know how you can become an over comer. Just ask!