I have been having unprotected s*x for 5 years HELP?

Question

Hello, i have been having un protected s*x for 5 years with my patner, and we really want to try having a baby but im now worried that i cant have a kid, since we have been having s*x unprotected for the past 5 years..... what does this mean about our future? I have looked at IVF programs, is there anyone here that can help me or give me advice!! i ahve been doing all the right things, with an ovulation kit and so on. PLEASE HELP????

Answer 1

Why dont you visit a fertility clinic and ask them to check both you and your partner for anything abnormal. And as far as unprotected s*x goes, if you dont do it at the right times then you won't get pregnant. So, dont panic.

Answer 2

you need to see a gyno so they can run some tests on you and your partner to see what the problem is.

these tests are:

hsg - check the tubes

day 21 blood test (if you have a periods, to see if you ovulate)

sperm test

maybe an ocvary scan if (pcos is suspected)

maybe some more blood tests (i had loads)

after this they will give you a treatment plan there is things before ivf if it's just an ovulation problem for instance you could try things like clomid, iui, then ivf

good luck xx

Answer 3

I'm no doctor, but I can ask you some questions and give you friendly advice....

1.  Have you read Toni Weschler's Taking Charge of Your Fertility?  Are you charting you basel temps, cervical mucus, cervical position, etc?  If not, this might prove to be very beneficial to you ~ especially in conjunction with the ovulation test kits.  You might not be having s*x at the exact right time...

2.  Are the ovulation kits saying that you are in fact ovulating?  If so, use charts to determine if your luteal phase is long enough to carry an embyro.  Luteal phase defects are common and treatable with medications.  

3.  If you are ovulating, are you having s*x at the right time?  And if you are, have you had your partner's sperm tested for count and motility?  That's usually the first step in determining what is the cause for "unexplained" infertility.  IVF is pretty far down the chain, unless you've already tried other things with a fertility specialist.  

4.  Have you tried nontraditional medicine, like acupuncture and things?  If not and you are open minded in that way, I suggest seeing a someone like that.  In my area we have Shams who has had a lot of experience in this area (http://www.five-elements.org).  There is probably someone like this in your area too.  

Don't lose hope.  I suggest getting a few months of good charting data together and them seeing a fertility specialist or a nontraditional specialist, even a midwife or doula can be helpful.  What's going to be really important is having that charting data for whoever you choose to see.  They will want to see this.  It really helps pinpoint possible issues.  :-)

Good luck to you.  

Answer 4

go to a doctor and ask them if you can get pregnant. if you can, try to have s*x. if that doesnt work you should go to a clinic and get it fertilized in you. you should also check if you have been fertilizing correctly. because if that dosent go rite you should get someone else to have your kid or carry it.

hope this helped  

Answer 5

Before you go the IVF route maybe both you and your partner should go get physicals at the doctor's to determine if there may be another problem why you can't concieve.  It could be something as simple as low sperm count to something more serious that is impeding pregnancy.