I have been noticing

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over the past few weeks that my kids don't need me as much as they used to. I know this means they are growing up, but I seem to have gone from reading them bedtime stories to not being needed at all. They don't want me picking them up from school or baking with them or anything, they just do their own thing. They are 12 and 10.

Answer 1

You need to let go. It's hard. but if you don't your kids won't like you at all.

Answer 2

Well, that seems a little odd.

I am 13 and I love my parents driving me around and I love to bake with my grandmother and mother.

They will need you, they just think that they are too cool right now, but then they will remember the time you all baked a large cake and want to do it again, or they will need you to dive them. All I can say, is don't chase after them, if they are too cool for mom, that means they don't need more than one hug a day, they don't need mom to cook every meal, "they can do it themselves".

And don't worry, they'll be back, they think they've grown up, when really they are acting immature.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well this is what happens to kids. They are starting to become more independent. It's a good things. You'll get used to it and start to like it soon. =]

Answer 4

Well, that happens. What's the question exactly. I was 11 when I just went to bed and my mom didn't "tuck me in" anymore. I'm 13 and still bake with my dad - but I'm a girl, I guess that's just me in some ways. I ride the bus home or walk home... umm... yaah we grow up like that. Trust me, they need you. My mom went away for a weekend and it was me, my brother, and my dad. LOL - well, lets just sunday was MAJOR cleaning day.  

Answer 5

I know how you feel. My son is going to 11 next week and he would rather be anywhere then at home. It seems like yesterday that all he wanted was his Mom. It is bittersweet. I miss him alot and like you I miss being needed. On the other hand he is growing up into a fine young gentleman I cant help but be proud.I guess they are finding there way into this world. Like when they took there first steps toward walking they are now taking there first steps toward life. We are not alone Im sure every Mom in the world has felt this way.I guess now our job has just changed a bit. If you need to chat feel free to email me.

Answer 6

Well the twelve year old it a pre-teen and I can really understand that, but the ten year old is still pretty young to be apart from you. Suggest fun things to do with your sons  that both would enjoy. Good luck!

Answer 7

They are more independent but they still need you.  

Answer 8

there just seeing how much they can do without you , trust me they will need you as soon as they hit their teens i did the same thing with my mum and now i need her more than anyone , you'll be there when they have problems with friends and you'll be the one they come to when they have relationships and trust me they will want dropping everywhere in a minite , make the most of it and just wait and see ...x

hope this helps and that all goes well ...x

Answer 9

theyre just becoming more independent  

Answer 10

Aww . Im 16 and although I don't show it , I would be lost without my mum. She isn't always by my side ( I am a very independant person and like it that way ) but she is always there when I need her !  No matter how old you are you always need your mum , I have lost count of the number of sticky situations my mum has got me out of.  

Maybe your kids are just enjoying a taste of being a bit independant.

Don't worry too much , no matter how many times they say they don't need you , or dont want to do this or that - the truth is they will always need you whether they are 12 or 22 . Just make sure you are always there for them :) x

Answer 11

listen hunni, i'm 14, and i'm not so needy of my mum anymore but i still love her, its norm their just getting indendent now and hanging out with mates, do feel bad they will need you soon when they don't expect it. lol

don't worry....

Answer 12

theres always a time when children grow up I'm 17 and 29 weeks pregnant and when i told the dad of the baby he didn't want to no so i needed my mum again like i use to i needed her cuddles her to tell me it was going to be ok and her to tell me she loved me growing ups hard and ur children will have there ups and downs and they will need u when your not expecting it x

Answer 13

hi my name is stacey and i'm 14 it's because they are growing up and they are getting more independent i was the same at the age of ten. but what i always loved is my mom and dad gave me a bit of space to be more independent but i always loved it when we sat there at night having a discussion about what we did that day or about whats been on the t.v. or we would just watch a film eating pop corn and i would always sit on the floor after i had come out of the bath and mom would comb my hair. i think all u need to do really is take a small step back and give them a bit of space.

i hope this helps. good luck!

Answer 14

They are only experiencing things on their own now or with friends their age. Don't feel neglected, it's just a sign of growing up and they will always love you.

Answer 15

normal