I have been so stupid?

Question

A year ago I suffered a stillbirth(a baby girl) my husband and I had planned her and got pregnant almost straight away. I was so overwhelmed with grief I pushed everyone away,including my husband. He tried and tried to communicate with me but I just wanted to be alone,eventually we split up in October and I got together with another man,mainly for the physical part,there was certainly no love there where as my husband has remained single but no contact.

I have split up with my "partner" last week and my husband had found out and he's been in touch and we met last night for the first time and we just cried and cried,talked about little Sarah(our stillborn daughter) and eventually told eachother we still loved eachother although hubby said he was jelous that I confided in another man instead of him in the begining. My family have all supported me although I have been one selfish cow and I really dont deserve any of them. I pushed the people I loved away when I needed them the most.

Answer 1

You had a truly awful experience, adn you reacted badly.  You shouldn't have slept with that man, but you're sorry, and in all honesty it's understansable in the situation.  Don't beat yourself up over it, what's done is done.  Your huysband knows, and he still loves you and has forgiven you, you also love him.  Stop feeling guilty and grab whatever chance you can have him...

What you did is understadable, please draw a line under it and move on with your husband.  You both deserve happiness :)

Answer 2

whoa....take it a little easier on yourself...you and your husband experienced tremendous grief....YOU deserves these people...so stop thinking otherwise....start one day at a time....LET THESE PEOPLE IN......of course, your husband was jealous...but you can work it out.....perhaps, you need to start with couples therapy.....good luck and god bless

Answer 3

your husband is still willing to have you back, this shows that he cares about you and after everything you have been through, it is normal to push people away, look forward to the future

Answer 4

your not stupid,,your human!! im sure you and your husband will work it out,,he really sounds like a good man,,get chatting and make a go of it,,life is for living!! all the best to you ok.x