I have been with my current boyfriend for 4 yrs...,?

Question

And now just a week ago he says he is getting his 7 YO twins back, we live in a 2 BR, and also have my 15 Yo daughter living with us, we are not prepared, maybe it's just me, I don't want anymore kids, what do I do? How do I make him understand? Am I being selfish?

Answer 1

put a bunk bed in the room with the 15yo

Tha other answerers are right though

Answer 2

Yes you are being selfish,. You knew he had kids and that didnt stop you from being with him. Plus you have a child of your own. I can understand not having space for them, but his kids are going to be priority over you. Suck it up and or move out.

Answer 3

Sorry but you knew dating him he had children.  How would you feel if it was you in his shoes?  And said this to you.  You would call him a pig and a jerk.  Which is exactly how your acting!

Answer 4

its his kids what would u do if ur daughter wanted to move in and he said no

Answer 5

You are absolutely being selfish. I understand your point of view, and things might be hard given the living situation, but they are his children. Are you honestly considering to tell him he can't take his children in and live with you? Put yourself in his shoes... would you be okay with your partner telling you that you can't have your children live with you? How would you feel if he told you he wants your daughter out then? Surely you wouldn't allow that. If you're so against it, do the right thing and break it off with him so he can find someone that loves him and isn't so selfish.

Answer 6

Tell him it is to much pressure.

Answer 7

Yes you are selfish.  Don't want kids?  Keep your legs closed.

Answer 8

It's going to be a huge change. It might take a while to get used to it.

This might be a good time to  really think about what you want out of life. If you really don't want to be a mom-figure to these kids, you may want to decide on your priorities: do you love him enough to stay?

Whatever you do, remember it's not the children's fault they are in this situation.