I have been with my fiancee for 2 yrs...?

Question

I am depressed, and I don't wanna have s*x, I take care of my 2 kids and his 2 kids by myself I have since literally the day after I met him.

He doesn't give me attention, affection, communication, he doesn't understand me. I have had one baby since I met him and I recently had surgery but yet I still took care of all the kids by myself. He always talks about s*x 24/7 its really nasty he turns me off( he says really disgusting things) I think this may be some of the reason I never want to have s*x but he makes me so sick and mad that I seriously want to hurt him I have actually thrown stuff at him and he still don't shut up it makes me feel violated and always inapropriatly touches me and it makes me cry I want to leave. We could be at a store, doctors office, in front of the kids it dpesn't matter he don't care at all. If I want him to do something I have to bribe him with s*x and then half of the time he doesn't do his part. He is always talking about my ex( He says stuff like think about his bug d*** and F*** me) It makes me sick, I have been in an abusive relationship before and I would much rather be there again then here. Why is he so immature??? Will it ever change?? Why does he do this?? He didn't act like this for the first six months. I have told him over and over again but he dont care. I have cryed to him but he still don't care. Can we ever have a normal relationship??

Answer 1

leave him. life is to short  

Answer 2

he's a verbal and emotional abuser and you don't deserve this type of treatment.  u r an intelligent woman and know when a relationship is toxic and that's exactly what this relationship is.  he doesn't treat u the way u want 2 b treated, so pack your s*** and go.  u and your kids deserve better!  

Answer 3

Sheesh, what a creep!  If he doesnt look after the kids, and doesnt give you attention, affection, communication, or understands how you are feeling, then check out your financial situation...

Are you able to find a job? If not, can you upskill and hopefully get a better paid position? Will social services be able to help you support the kids?  Who will take care of the kids while you are at work?  Can you go into training at a local community college, polytech or university?

Think outside the square and hopefully you will find some way out of this position.

Answer 4

Look, he needs to know what a douche packer he's being and you don't deserved to be treated like that. Tell him you're not just there for his enjoyment and that he needs to pull his weight or else you're not doing anything for him. Tell him to go get himself a ******* hooker and **** her brains out if all he wants is s*x, you are there to be his partner, not his s*x toy, okay? Secondly tell him you don't appreciate him being an *** and that since you've been in an abusive relationship before you want him to be kinder to you. You don't have to say anything like that I said, but something along those lines so that he gets your point.

Tell him YOU don't think it's cute and that he needs to stop because it's making you uncomfortable. Hon, you just need to let him know that you don't like how he's treating you and that he needs to cut it out or else, as other people have said, you should just take a break from him. Go to a friend's house or some place where he can't bug you so he'll know that you're not kidding.

Answer 5

Ok time to get out of this relationship. If you do don't then this is your fault and then only you are to blame. Be strong enough and leave him, this is the only solution.

Time for you to go.

What he is doing to you is called sexual assault.

This is a crime.

Answer 6

This is another abusive relationship, or at the very least, an unhealthy one. It would definitely be best if you left if that is at all possible.  

Answer 7

Pick up your kids and just leave. This isn't a fair and right relationship. Pack your bags and see if you can stay at a friends house for a few nights or a relatives. Have you asked him why he does these things to you? Maybe he'll be willing to go to a marriage counselor. If not, just go. Good luck.

Answer 8

wtf you dont need that.leave him he is abusing you mentally and sexually who does he think he is?.

Answer 9

Get rid of this d***head. If he can't treat you with respect, let him hump his hand.  The guy is a complete dolt. I very much doubt if you could ever have a normal relationship, he's far too immature and insensitive. If you've cried and tried to talk to him and he still behaves like an idiot, dump his sorry a**.

He's the nasty one if he thinks calling you names is a joke. He's a loser.