I have boy troubles; can you help?

Question

I'm 17, almost 18.

I've been going out with Tyler for 5 months, and I mean things are good. However- I met Peter 2 months ago... and at first, he was just some guy I worked with, never thought much of him. But, a couple of weeks ago I saw the real him and I think I'd be better with him. He told me he likes me... and honestly I think things with Tyler are fine, but we aren't always into doing the same things. He loves to be romantic, and he always expects me to dress up when we go out [meaning; I wear a dress].. I HATE DRESSING UP.. I'd much rather go to a movie or something, and wear jeans. But, Tyler always wants to go some fancy restaurant. Peter isn't to the whole "romantic" thing either, which I love about him, because I am the same way.

Now-

who do I date?

Answer 1

if heart says so you should always go for what your heart says

Answer 2

Talk to Tyler and explain to him what a great guy you think he is, but that you don't always like having to dress up and be "romantic."  After you both talk and get your feelings out in the open you might be able to work through any issues.  If not then you should feel confident in your decision to enter into a relationship with Peter.  

Answer 3

I think this is just like when a person is shopping and they have a pair of shoes that they love but sometimes give them minor blisters, and they see a new pair of shoes that look like they couldn't give them any blisters! But then the person buys the shoes and finds out that those shoes actually do give them some blisters and they wish for their old shoes back....

I think this could be an impulse descision. I'd say to stay with Tyler because he hasn't done anything wrong and you said things are fine with him. Maybe you're just worried about your commitment to Tyler and want to date someone else. But then, maybe you're not. :)

I think this could be just a crush, and if you were to date Peter you would realise his flaws may be worse than that dressing up for Tyler. Peter might have a crazy foot fettish or something! As for the dressing up thing, talk to Tyler and tell him that you don't really like dressing up. If he loves you, he should respect your wants.

Of course it seems like you have so much more in common with Peter because you haven't got to know him up close and personal. And no relationship is good unless the people don't see eye to eye on some things... That would be weird if you were both exactly the same.

I hope you are really happy with the descision you will make! :D

Answer 4

it sonds like you made your choice just by asking the question. if everything was just fine with tyler you wouldnt be thinking of peter. go for peter... if you dont, your going to hate your elf when you and tyler break up. face it when were young its almost never true love

Answer 5

Date whoever you want. Sounds like you and Peter have more in common.

Answer 6

d**n i'd be confused too... i think peter sounds like a better match than tyler, but it's hard to break up with someone just because "i met someone else." it's good to have common sense, but i think in relationships it's better to go with gut feelings so my vote is peter...

Answer 7

Stay with the guy you are with...Cuz I had my gf leave me for another guy, and it hurt me a lot. Because I didnt do anything to her, and yet she just left me for another guy.

It will break poor tyler's heart, and I dont want him to go thru what I went thru...I request you to please keep your relationship going with Tyler.

God Bless

Answer 8

hmm go wit ur heart n its better 2 break up wit Tyler now den to take it farther wit him n wait till its too latee n u'll feel moree BADD if u do it then so just follow ur heart as cheezy as it sounds cuz y live a life datz a lie n live a life datz not funn?

Answer 9

Honestly, follow your heart.

But if you want real advice.

You are always going to find flaws in someone, just because you haven't found one in "Peter" doesn't mean hes going to perfect.

I say, if you and "Tyler" are still doing good stick with him. Also try talking to him about dressing out he might understand, you know him more than i do of course. GOOD LUCK!