I have broken a heart unintentionally,what do i do??

Question

I had a boyfren and we both wanted to get married but during the affair..i found certain things which did not make me confident enuff to bring him in fromt of my parents. Recently he'd ask me to tell my parents abt our affair and wish to get married. But because of lack of my confidence i didnt talk to my parents assuming they'll refuse and told him that my dad has refused because of certain reason. He now calls me, msgs me, calling me names and accusing me and my dad for ruining his life.

In the starting of our relationship we'd come to a mutual decision that if in case our parents' dont agree with our alliance we wont force them to do so and neither we wud sulk over it. Instead give a mutual end to our relation. But now it seems he'd forgot everything!! And all the times keeps saying that he wud end up his life as all the efforts he was taking were for me...I feel so guilty!

I really love him even now but somehow dont have that much confidence in him and neither i can confront this into him that what made me do such a stupid thing.

Plzz help..what should i do???

Answer 1

hi,

    miss i dont know u but  can tell u a fact that the world agrees. where is  faith/ confidence there will be love that may be either ur parents or frns or any stranger. this is the thing ibelive. in ur case ur not in love with him its just an attractionj and u need not to be worried abt that just get relaxed and carry on with new life and some one u trust most.  

Answer 2

well i dont know very well english so gave u answer in hindi.first tum usse baat karo aur agar tumhare ander dum hai ke tum uske ke saath apni puri family ko chood karke  kush reh sakti ho to u get married with him or not to jahan tumhar maa bap shadi kar rahe wahan chupchap shaadi kar ke sabkuch bhool ke apne husband ke saath kush raho.jahan tak baat tumhare boyfriend ki hai to woh agartumhara saath dena chaha hai to baat karo aur familywalo ka kya hai yaar woh to kuch din ke baad sab theek ho jate hai .so now all on dependet of u .waisay ek bbat hai ke kisi ka dil todna acchi bbat nai byeeeeeeeeeeeeee?

Answer 3

personally, i think you made the right decision in breaking up with him since he seems like a total jerk. i mean, you were clear with him in the beginning that you needed your parents permission so you're not at fault here. besides, since you're having doubts about marrying him, i think it's your unconscious mind telling you that he's the wrong guy for you. just try to avoid him as much as possible and hopefully he'll get tired of calling you.

Answer 4

If u also love him and it is true love and from the core of your heart then be brave and bold and convince your parents for your love with him. In case your parents dont agree and you madly love him and you are adult then go ahead and marry him but the love should be true from both sides. One day your parents will come with you people dont worry

Answer 5

Firstofall when you get into love affairs, both are to be shared each and everything of thoughts and if there is any negative in that, try to remove those things. If you would have done so, this problem might not have been arrived. Since now negative thoughts appeared in your mind, you forget all those things happened and keep your mind cool. Both of you write daytoday activities for a week and read it and then you will realise about the life. Do meditation for about 30 minutes keeping the mind blank and concentrate your mind thinking that there is link between the centre of the forehead and edge of the nose. Who are you to think things which has no value. If something is to be happened either you or any one can't stop it. It is a fate. For eg. yesterday, a family went for a pilgrimage to nearby place from here, they met with an accident and not even a single person survived and all have died. This is thing going on nowadays.