I have depression and I am very shy

Question

It is always awqard when I talk to people. And I have low self esteem. I am 14, and I am scared because I can't get a job or anything because I am so shy, and I can't live my life because I can't talk to other people. My best friend is the exact opposite of me. And everyone loves her and I am just known as her friend to everyone. Will I ever get over getting shy? Anyone have any sugestions on what I could do?

Answer 1

Try reading the book "How to win friends and influence people". It will give you steps to take to be better with people. Making small changes a little bit at a time is the best way to change habits. When you experience good results when you try to be more out going the next time will be easier. Find different books about how to set goals, communicate, and positive thinking. These types of books are great for giving people ideas to work on. You will figure it out. Hang in there!

Answer 2

Well, I am 17 and have depression and have met several people like you in treatment, including myself. It takes practice. This one sweet girl I met spoke so quietly I had to be right next to her to hear her. After a month of intensive treatment she was still quiet, not nearly as much though and was more open. It may take years before you can shake that awkard feeling, but if you practice, you could become much more social. So practice practice practice.

Answer 3

The secret to getting along with people is not trying to SAY the right thing, but asking questions, really listening to the answers and asking appropriate follow-up questions.  Get a person talking about themselves and listening to them and they will adore you.  It's much easier to ask questions than to answer them.

Answer 4

just keep hanging out with your group of friends, it will slowly expand and you will become more outgoing.  Also growing up my best friend was really shy, and now he is one of the most charismatic people i know.  He even got a job as a salesman in highschool.

Answer 5

Story of my life right there <3

Sure, you can talk to other people. Just give them a simple "Hi" or "Hello" to people whom you are familiar with when you see them. That's pretty much how I became more extroverted, because those simple greetings could sometimes lead to conversations. Also, simply talk to people who everyone says are nice. Get talking to people who you know won't judge you at first, and then get going with others. Even if you don't think that there are people, there really are. You just need to identify them. Good luck!