I have fiance and he have 2 children..and they dont want thier dad to marry me.wat should i do??

Question

how can i prove to them that i love thier father even of our age gap?pls help it hurt me seeing my fiance having problem with her children bcoz of our relationship..but i really love him

Answer 1

spend time with the kids, help them with homework, go to sporting events, really find out who they are as people, let them know that you are not trying to replace your fiance's ex, maybe try counsuling if things get extreme, but do not enter a marriage with angry kids. that is just flirting with disaster!

Answer 2

To be honest i have a step dad. i don't like him i will never like him. Just make sure it doesn't look like you are taking up all her time, and give them space. Ask if they want to do anything today like hang out with friends or what not. and don't let your wife get mad at the kids for something you do for them. Or don't report back to her everything you do for them like say you gave them 20dollar. for school or 50 to go shopping. Because she could be like WHAT WHY there just kids they don't need that much or be angry and then she would go to the kid and be like did you ask him for money blah blah blah...but cause if they see that then they will never get close to you. because its kind of like. You are just there to supervise. Make sure you plant a seed saying i'm here to help you and be a father to you not supervise. Treat them liek you would your own. If you gave money to your own kids would you tell your wife? and allow her to get mad If not then don't allow her to get mad tell her. Well there my kids too, and i want to give them what ever they need with limits. Thats how i would like to raise them. Then a bigger fight will emerge. because no matter what those will always be HER kids. Thats why the kids don't like you =] kind of confusing.

Answer 3

What should you do?

Wait three more years.  In three years, the 17-year-old will already be out of the house.  The 15-year-old will then be turning 18 and will be heading off to college.

Wait 3 years, then marry their father.  If you really love him, you can wait 3 years.  

And in three years, the kids' opinions won't matter.  They will be out of the house.  Problem solved.

Sometimes it pays not to rush.

Answer 4

I`m very sorry to be blunt but: If you live in an English speaking country: First thing to do is to learn to spell.

Second thing to do would be to just spend more time with them and let them get to know you. It takes time and you have to understand that these kids will not just relax back and start loving you right away. You`re not their mother and they know that. They are defensive and that`ll be the case for a long time. The only thing you can do is be yourself, spend time with them and let them feel comfortable with you. You need to take the role of a younger aunt (someone who they look up to, has authority and yet is a friend figure).

All the best.

Answer 5

Hey ,when I met my husband he had three children I had one. and his daughter didn't like me. but as time went on we became friends. when she

was having her baby she didn't ask for her  mother she asked for me. so give it some time they will come around.

Answer 6

just keep being reasonable, they are near adults, as long as they are welcome to the house to spend time with their dad that is all they can demand at this stage

their dad is a grown man, he is not their property and he make his own descisons