I have friend troubles, dunno what to do!?

Question

There is this girl who always follows me around, and not to be mean but she is a little weird. For example no style, very unhealthy, weird laugh, nasty hair etc. Well she trys to be my best friend but I hate her!. And so do the rest of my friends. But I don't have the guts to tell her to leave us alone. How do I make her butt out of my life, without being rude??? ( well i can be rude i just prefer not too. )

Answer 1

When she is around pretend she is not there

But she my need your help maybe bad mouther or none at all

Answer 2

my 15 year old went thru that last year with a girl who kept telling everyone she was my daughters best friend and she smelled really bad, tangly hair, very dirty to say the least, and my daughter just said you are not my friend and maybe if you take better care of yourself you would have more friends, and that made a difference, the girl actually cleaned herself up and made more friends and it was amazing how she looked afterward, my daughter doesnt like to be mean either, but just tell her to clean herself up and dress better and take care of herself and maybe then you and your friends will not mind being her friend. My daughter went thru this with 2 dif girls in the past 2 years and it is a shame because they just want friends like anyone else, so please try to be nice about it and tell her if she makes a few changes to her appearance it may help her a lot.just dont hurt her meanwhile,and tell your friends to be nice too while she decides if it is important enough to het to make the changes. god bless you for not being mean about it!

Answer 3

I had the same experience. You should be flattered, she obviously idolized you if she's taken to following you around like a puppy. And saying "not to be mean, but ....." and then judging her on her looks is extremely mean. I mean, can you control your laugh or how it sounds to the rest of the world? No, and her style - well, maybe you could help her. It sounds like you friends are encouraging you to make her "butt out" of your life. It's an extremely sad situation and you would be an extremely sad person to tell someone to get away from just by how they look.

When I was in your situation, I didn't like the girl either. But you know what? We hung out and I found she was a really cool person and we've been good friends for about a year. If the girl knows she has security as one of your friends, she'll back off on the "following". She's only looking for a friends, so don't be cruel.  

Answer 4

the best way would probably be to tell her that she has to go or just let her keep doing that ubtil she gets bored

Answer 5

be nice.

you don't have to pretend to be her best friend, just don't be mean.

i know you are very annoyed and want to be left alone, but think about her.

she admires you. she looks up to you. she thinks you are way cool. why else would she stick to you?

you may not like the way she looks, but you shouldn't make up your mind about people based on their appearance. get to know her! give her a chance!

and who cares if you're friends don't like someone you don't hang out with? if you had a mind of your own, you would ignore you're friends' opinions and make up your own. why do you need their approval?

also, keep in mind that she has feelings. like i said before, she really likes, and it would be just cruel of you to let her down.

let her know you need a bit of space.

say sometimes like, "hey! can we talk for sec? lately, i've been into a lot of stuff. i have tons of homework, and my parents are being really annoying. so you know, right now i'm just kind of stressed. so i just wanted to say that i need a bit of space, you know? it would be way cool of you to understand, cuz i just feel like everyone's crowding in on me right now and i just want some time to myself. so i'll see you around!"

okay, well i hope i helped and good luck! and please don't be mean. :]]

Answer 6

you think that it would be best if you weren't friends.  Tell her that she needs to find friends that will be better off for her, and your afraid that if you stay friends that she wont be able to be herself or some c**p like that.

Just dont be rude. And if worst comes to worst, tell her that you dont  want to be friends anymore.

Answer 7

Tell her that shes cool and everything but you have enuff friends to keep track of and you cant c u to getting along very well so mayb its best if you go ur seperate ways.

Answer 8

u just have to be rude

Answer 9

Encourage her to join some clubs at school...teams, or find other weirdos to befriend her.

Answer 10

how long have you been friends,?....and you dislike her, hate is such a harsh word,.......why dont you help her get better instead of disowning her because of what people might think

Answer 11

uh... not to be rude but you shouldn't treat her any different just because she's.. different o_O anyway if you're really sick of her then just go up to her and say to her kindly that you don't think that you'll be good friends and that you two don't fit into the same category or just completely ignore her..but if i were you i'd just treat her nicely

Answer 12

Kudos!!! to you for not wanting to be rude. Why don't you try telling her the things you know would make her more acceptable to you and your friends. Maybe if she knew why she's an outcast she would change these things . And possible you and her could become friends.

Answer 13

Me and my friends had this problem a couple of years ago, she thought she was amazing because her mum was a model (albeit a hand model). We handled it in the end by asking our form tutor what to do, and she suggested we hung out with other people who she might end up fitting in with better, which actually worked.

If that doesn't work, you probably should just talk to her about it.

(Preferably not over text ;))

Answer 14

Sometimes you have to be blunt with people because sometimes they just don't get the hint. Just because you're honest, doesn't make you rude.

Answer 15

you could do your own version of the clueless makeover and make her cute/cool!  you're going to hurt her feelings either way unless you figure out a way to make her reject you... try to make her not want to hang out with you guys

Answer 16

Just ignore her ask her to nicely stop

Answer 17

you should say "listen (friends name) i like you and everything its just i think we should spend some time apart. i mean we dont have to spent every waking moment togethor! i need to spend some time with my other friends. and i think you should too. don take this the wrong way, i still want to be friends. just can we hang out a lil less?"

Answer 18

There is always people in this life that become a test for us. Is it possible this is one for you.  What would your parents do. And can you place yourself in the girls shoes for just a day.  Maybe if you had enough imagination you might be able to help this one soul become an acceptable Human Being. Who knows everyone wants to be wanted.  Give it a try, just a little at a time.  Good luck and God Bless "YOU"!

Answer 19

ok so if she follows you around the right thing to do is walk up to her and say "NAME i really don't like it when you follow me around. I'm not trying to be rude or anything but i feel uncomfortable when you do. We can be friends and all but not super close ones. Thank you for listening." then you walk away.

Then if she stills follows you then go to an adult

GOOD LUCK!!

♥

Answer 20

just ignore her.

Answer 21

maybe you should try to get to know her. her outside appearance shouldnt matter to you and neither should your friends opinions. grow up, what are you gonna do if your boss has nasty hair? you going to try and shun her? you wont survive in the real world.