I have got myself in a terrible situation and i need some in put?

Question

About a year and a half ago i started seeing a man from work. He's married and has kids. As all married men do he wooed me, and told me i was the one he wanted, and baa baa. I fell for him, of course! And though i spent every nyt in tear's and ending it with him every week i stilled stayed with him i even took out a contract phone on my name for him beceause we text each other so much (up to 1000 text a month). I was hot and cold with him every day i loved him but everything else was so wrong! . He convinced me to stay with him and i did. Then eventally he did leave her. It was about september last year. Him moving out didn't help he still went home every day after work and got his dinner and any nyt i refussed to stay he would go home to her.( i refussed to stay because i wanted it over) And i bitched at him more and more i felt like my world had ended. after six months we had a fight next thing i no he's moving back in with her. i finally think thats is now then. But no he phones me telling me he still loves me!!! and once again to my stupid expense i stayed with him. and once again about 3 months later he moves out again promising everything will be different. that brings us to now he's still out, he doesn't go home after work any more nor does he stay with her. But i can't do it i still ***** every day and end it every other day the guilt and pain is just not worth it but the thing is i have told him this, i have told him how i don't want ever have his wife finding out about us or any1 finding out. but he still manages to say i know u love me and give me a chance we can make this work..(all this time his wife never knowing about me we don't leave the house together) i no in reality it never will be but he always has someing to say to every reason a give to end it. he won't let me go! i still cry every nyt even tho i'm in his bed. i,ve told no1 but my family Please give me some guidance i love him but i just feel it can't do it but when i try to end it he seems so heart broken like he really needs me. help!

Answer 1

Ya heres my advice. STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   Karma honey>>> what goes around, comes around. You'll get yours one of these days. And you think your upset now??? Just wait. You'll be in his wifes shoes pretty soon. I hope you get everything thats coming to you. Whats the matter with you woman?? Is it just the rush of seeing if you can get him??? It's a game I think to you type of people. You don't really believe he cares about you do you???  LOL LOL  He thinks of you as a joke. Because thats what you are. A BIG JOKE!!!  Just another hole.  And I mean this of both sexes. Not just woman. Don't worry honey, you'll get yours in the end. You type ALWAYS do!!!  

Answer 2

Get out of this relationship now. It's destructive to your own self-esteem. That, and, if he cheated on his wife with you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you eventually. Any relationship that starts out with a lie never ends up well. He's using you and his wife and that's just plain sad, as is the fact that you decided to be with a married man. I know you'd rather not be judged, but you have to realize that not only are you messing up your own life by being with him, you also messed up his wife's life.

Answer 3

Wow!  Look at all of the answers you've gotten already in only 18 minutes.  Its pretty darn obvious that you need to END this now.  He does NOT need you!  Even for s*x - he does not NEED you!  And you certainly do NOT NEED HIM and all the emotional abuse he is inflicting on you and you are allowing from him.  He is wearing you down.  Refuse any further communication with him whatsoever.  

Answer 4

Not only is he cheating on his wife he is cheating on his children. He has s*x with you than goes home to his fabulous wife he can not seem to leave and makes love to her. Get a life of your own. a new phone unlisted and a new home if you are renting an apartment there are plenty of places to live other than there.  As for work find another place all you will do is run into him he and you are both whores.    

Answer 5

LEAVE HIM ALONE. As you see he is not going to leave his wife. The only reason he is with you is because you're easy and convenient. You made a mistake by messing with a married man. You need to move on and focus your attention on yourself and your morals. Dating a married man is recipe for misery and a disaster.

Answer 6

you know what your doing is not right... he is married and has kids... have you ever think what will happen to you if his wife will find out your relationship? your life will be ruined..so think of yourself, your single and has lots of chance to find someone who will love you. don't ever think the feelings of that man, he is not worth loving.. if he had betrayed his wife, so he can do it to you too... think bout it...  

Answer 7

I must say you totally disgust me.

If you want to feel good about finally ending this charade then I do suggest you visit his wife and children see what your competition was tell her about her cheating husband and totally uncaring and disrespecting father.

Allow him to be the one crying  in his bed alone, to reflect on his indiscretions and heartless behavior.

I spent 26 years married to a cheating wife and I have no sympathy for you or him, you are deserving of all your pain and anguish.    

Answer 8

Yes he gets broken hearted, yes he does not want to lose you, but the clincher is, he does not love you enough to divorce his wife. So what he does is go back and forth from her to you and from you to her, back and forth, playing the both of you. Stop listening to his words and pay more attention to his actions. This man does not respect the relationship he has with you or he would have did right by you. He only goes to you when his wife get into an argument. What does this say about his morals? Why are you letting your love blind you to the true facts here? He is a dishonest man who lies and cheats on his wife and he also cheats on you with his wife. Trust me, he is getting it from her also. Do you not feel you deserve much better than this?  

Answer 9

He's having his cake and eating it too. Why should he change? And you're obviously getting something out of the love/hate drama or you would have left a long time ago.

I predict this is going to end badly. The right thing for you to do is find somebody else and stop messing with a married man. He has children and responsibilities and you're making it easy for him to ignore them.

Answer 10

He doesn't need you... He just wants you for s*x - Plain and simple.

He needs his wife and kids that's why he keeps going back to them.

Just end it with him and thats it. Unless you like being #2 in his life!