I have had a abusive boyfriend and im only 15 he is 16 almost 17 ?

Question

we have broken up and i currently have a bf but the physcological problems are still there i cant get over the flashbacks of physical and emotional abuse and wen my current boyfriend does certain things i get flashbacks of my ex its horrible and my boyfriend rescued me from this abusive relationship and he is really worried about my safety and if i will ever recover plz help!and i have talked to my parents and a psycologist no help at all

Answer 1

a psychologist will be helpful, trust me  

Answer 2

Healing is slow, takes time, even years. You should go to barnes and noble, and read books on self help. Look through the section, find the one that helps. If you don't help yourself, you'll end up hurting your boyfriend and being the abusive one

Answer 3

Ok hunn first of all,

You got to realize that if this guy hits you, you ditch him because no women or man should be getting hit!

2nd,



Ur current bf saved u from ur last so he knows what ur going threw, he shouldn't be yelling when he knows what you've been thru...

But you got to realize that he's diff since he knws what uve been threw & he cares that much for u, he will not hurt u! But also he gots to control his anger too, for you!

You got to be strong, not for him but for yourself because if u don't pass over this then you can't handle being in a relationship with anyone!

Hope this helps a bit!

Be strong & like I said if he cares he won't hurt u!! He saved u remeber!

Answer 4

Ask God for his help in dealing with this problem in your life,he saw what happened and he can  help,but you must have faith and believe in him.Things will get better in time,I am glad you found someone who treats you good now you deserve better than what you had. If your ex-boyfriend starts to bother you get a court order to keep him away from you.Go take some self-defense  lessons,and learn to protect yourself in the future. Go buy a gun if you need it and,make sure it is registered in your name,learn how too shoot it at a firing range from professionals. Get a big dog,and give it some classes in being a good guard-dog,tell the instructors that you want it taught how too attack on command. In other words stop being a  victim,abusers prey on the weak. Be strong,and also pray about it,God will be there too protect you to the end.Good luck and God Bless You.I hope everything works out for you in the future.

Answer 5

Go back to your doctors and get yourself refered to a therpaist or psychologist long term, post traumatic stress syndrome takes a long time to deal with etc but your get there. Time is a healer. I personally would not have gone into another relationship so quick!!

Answer 6

When you have been abused, it will not go away over night. It will take years before you get over it. You may have flash back for the rest of your life. My nephew married a lady who had been abused and she was telling me, just lately that she still has flash back every now and then. That has been nearly 40 years ago. So do not expect it to go away compleaty any time real soon. Your current bf will just have to be careful and very understanding. Make sure he knows about your past so he will know when you react to something why you reacted the way you did. I hope this will help you to understand the what and why of your reactions. I am so sorry this has happen to you and I wished I could do more for you. Good Luck and May God Always be with You.