I have issues with my parents help!?

Question

i have some really bad issues with my parents. i need help! you see, for the last couple of weeks my parents have been arguing a lot about stupid things. in the past they have agrued a lot too but not like this. this time it got worse. my grandma was here to stay with us for a month and during that time my dad was on his best behaviour. my grandma left last week and now my parents continue with the arguing as soon as she leaves. yesterday it got so bad that they physically started to fight and my mom was breaking down doors in the house and it was horrible. i tried to stop them but they didnt listen. i told my dad that he should leave the house but he's like "No this is my house" and then i told my mom to leave and she's like "No im not letting him push me out" Neither of them refuse to leave. i tried to work things out and then my dad got mad at me cuz he thinks im taking my moms side over his and now he's not speaking to me. i dont know what to do anymore i need help! what to do??

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do to stop your parents from fighting other than calling 911 and reporting BOTH of them for domestic violence.

Don't get yourself involved in their fights. You'll end up being the one to get hurt.

When the next fight starts, make the call! Do it from a neighbor's house if that's available to you. Make it from your cell phone but do it outside where they can't hear you. Then STAY AWAY until the police arrive.

Answer 2

i would tell them that there stupid. and life is to short too fight because you dont know what will happen in the future and that there acting like 2 year olds. but say it firmly.

Answer 3

I have a few assumptions, tell me if I'm not right:

1) they won't consider marital counseling.

2) neither will admit they have anger issues.

3) they're both irrational when they fight.

Now, with that background in mind, here's what you do:

Start acting real weird - like not eating, dressing differently, having a "whatever" attitude with them, etc.. and make them ask you what the problem is.  The more they ask "what's your problem?!" the better.

Have your friends (if they're willing) call your parents and say they're worried about you, you've been acting all strange lately.

When they're sufficiently concerned, tell them that you don't know what your problem is, that maybe you should see a psychologist.. but you don't want to go alone, you want one of them to come with you - for *ahem* moral support.

when you've got them in the psych's office, start talking about your family troubles, how school's fine, but you're insecure at home because of how much your parents argue, how you worry about them...   the focus will shift 180 degrees from you to your parents.