I have just found out I'm pregnant, but.....?

Question

how can i tell my mum...

every1 else knows (except my family)

people say i should wait till in 4month gone, but even then how do i tell her?

any ideas? has any1 else been in the same position?

i know she will eventually come around to the idea, but its all the agro until she does :s

thanks

:)

Answer 1

i would tell her right away.  only because every knows excpet the family.  you don't want the surprise to be leaked by anyone else.  if i am pregnant, we plan to tell in 2 months. we decided that my mom would find out before his aunt (raised him) only because his aunt is a big time gossiper.  

Answer 2

That's messed up! Since everyone knows already, you need hurry up and tell your mom ASAP. Can you imagine if she finds out about it from someone else? That's a disaster! Your family should be first to know, no matter how hard it is. The longer you wait, the harder it is.  

Answer 3

don't wait to tell them.. its better to get over and done with.. the faster you tell her the better that way it wont be in your head all the time.. and i would just straight up tell her.. don't eat around the bush..  

Answer 4

Are you really going to keep it? Don't forget the possibility of abortion.

Answer 5

lol a couple little ways without getting crazy

1. take her out to a restruant (maybe with your guy) and break it to her slowly over the meal, i would hint at it alittle, to get an idea of how she might react, and then be like, the reason why im asking is..causeimpregnantnowhowsabout that desert...lol

2. kinda leave out your hpt somewhere where you know shes gonna find it. that is if your wayyyyy to chicken **** to tell her

3. plan a girls night for you 2, like a nice dinner, and then go for a walk in a park or on the beach under the stars, kinda mother daughter bonding talk..about certain things when you were little and how she felt, and then tell her

lol i know these are alittle out there but sometimes they help break that ice and disbelief moment... but tell her soon b.c that would hurt her more to know last.. either way theres nothing she can do about it..

gooooodddd lucckkk tell me if this helped alittle or gave you some ideas

Answer 6

My Husbands Parents are the closest thing I have to real parents.  They took care of me for 2 years in high school and has been there for me more than my own family that is living. I haven't told anyone besides a few people, mostly all friends and my one sister in law. I lost my first baby at 20 weeks so I was going to wait till after then to tell even though they may get suspicious before then. I would just, at the time you feel is right, blurt it out. That is what I am going to do. With my first EVERYONE already knew by the time I said anything though. When ever you feel is right that is when you tell. You don't necessarily have to wait till your second trimester.

Answer 7

Do not wait to tell her, that's not healthy for you, or the baby and can only cause problems later on. Sit your mom down one quiet evening, or take her out for coffee or something. Tell her that you have something very important to discuss with her. Let her know that you made a decision that may not have been the right one at the time, and you need her help. Tell her that you made the decision to have s*x, and you are expecting a child now. Let her know how you feel about it and your plans, and tell her that you need her support, whether it's supporting you keeping the baby or supporting you putting the baby up for adoption, or even if the support is just taking you to doctors appointments.

She will probably be upset at first, but she will come around. If she doesn't, then try and find a young moms pregnancy support centre. They're usually all over states and provinces and will provide housing and support during the pregnancy.

Do not wait until you are 4 months along. You and the baby need proper, essential prenatal care to ensure the healthiest pregnancy possible.

Good luck.

Answer 8

since everyone already knows except fam i would not wait till 4 months cause if they find out from someone else than they are going to be extremely fast and trust me word gets around fast. just tell them the way you told everyone else and explain a little more.answer all there ?'s honestly and yea they may seem mad at first depending on how old you are and if you are old enough and out of the house she will probably be excited good luck i know how you feel about telling ur parents though

Answer 9

I told my parents right away after finding out I was pregnant, I figured it would be easiest to just get it out there in the open. However, with my husband's parents we did wait until I was 12 weeks along (passed the miscarriage point) because we knew they would tell everyone and their mom.

You just say "I have some important news to tell you! You're gonna be a grandma!" or you could make a meal and use a card that says "Grandma" on it or something like that.

Answer 10

Your body is yours, despite the fact that you live in your mother's house. Your friends' suggestions to wait until you are 4 months along aren't good. If you want the baby, you will keep the baby, waiting for 4 months - bah to that. You will have doctors visits, etc. Won't your mom wonder where the insurance bills are coming from? Or why you are always running off to some appointment or doctor?

Mom's aren't stupid. At least not all the time. She'll be clued in, she was pregnant with you once, you can't hide it from her.

It's scary, and you're right, there will be a lot of aggrovation, but you need to approach her like an adult. You were adult enough to get pregnant, and you sound like you plan on being a mother yourself, so out of respect for yourself and your unborn child, you need to tell her.

Take the time to act responsibly now. If you sneak around, or otherwise avoid telling her, it will only make you look severely immature.

At this time in your life, you do not want to look immature. You are a mother now, act your role.

Sit her down, with an older family member or an adult friend that you feel comfortable with, and break the news. It would also help if you had a proposed plan of action to take, so that she will know you have thought about your situation intelligently, and have come up with options.

Stay strong, best of luck to you.

Answer 11

just tell her when you feel comfortable with telling her. And your probably going to have to deal with her dislikes about it anyhow so I would just get it over with and tell her.

Answer 12

im in the same situation cant help you lol...i dont even want to tell my parents

Answer 13

the sooner you tell her the better

she might be upset but she will get over it

and who knows maybe she will take it better then you expected

i told my parents and they were pretty cool about it

i wasn't expecting that

good luck