I have lost interest in s*x with my husband,?

Question

he doesn;t turn me on,but am always craving sexually,i m********e myself instead,love him but no other attractions.

Answer 1

then time to find what does get you off... ;)

i find cyber and webcamming good.. :D

Answer 2

after a while im pretty sure it happens to everyone. you just get used to it.

Answer 3

Hm have you discuss this issue with your man? It's important that you speak about it and maybe try and see a s*x therapist.  

Answer 4

It`s a phase: marriage has it`s ups and downs, including the bedroom. Why not let him watch you while you`re doing your thing, maybe sparks will begin to fly again. Don`t think that it`s over, but rather you 2 need to reconnect. Kudos to you for not cheating ! Respect to you

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Answer 5

Tell your husband to take a bath!!

I'm not joking.

Maybe to you, he has an offensive smell.

Maybe he doesn't brush his teeth.

Maybe he's fat or thin like a reed.

Ask him to take care of his health by taking care of his body and grooming.

Maybe he is no longer romantic.

Maybe he has become irresponsible and doesn't have a job.

You've already lost your respect to him.

Ask him to treat you better with love and passion.

Maybe all those I mentioned above are sexual turn-offs to you.

Maybe there is nothing wrong with your husband.

Maybe the fault is in you.

When you m********e, who is the object of your fantasy?

Is it your dashing boss? Your handsome neighbor? Your younger co-office worker. Another woman?

Between husband and wife, s*x is an expression of love.

Don't fool yourself maybe you don't love him anymore or maybe you are already falling out of love.

He is no longer the epitome of your concept of what a dream man should be.

That's why you fantasizes with other men.

That's why you don't want to share your love for him through s*x.

Your husband  is not dumb,

He knows and he feels that there is something wrong with your marriage.

Maybe he masturbates a lot also to satisfy his sexual urges to which you cannot satisfy.

Worse, he might seek the help of somebody else to feel loved.  

My advice to you if you want your marriage to remain normal, is for the both of you to seek professional help - a psychiatrist, a marriage counselor, or a s*x therapist perhaps.

Just do it...

Answer 6

I have had this problem before. Mine's not all the time though, just alot of the time. Sometimes I do it just because I don't want to leave him hanging. All I know is try masturbationg a lil first to get urself going then try it with him, or do it in front of him. Maybe thats ur turn on. If not the thing that works for me everytime is my husbands gives me a naked back massage and he is too and eventually it starts to feel s**y cause u are both naked and he's like rubbing ur whole body. That is a for sure turn on!

Answer 7

Jane, you have turned to self satisfaction in stead of letting your hubby do the tricks you want.  When you are doing it to yourself you can be the person you want to be.  It is totally different when you are with someone because you are not totally exposed and vulnerable to mistakes.

Answer 8

Why?

If you can't answer that, then I suggest talking with someone.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Stop masturbating.  Stop feeding your flesh.

Begin thinking of your husband in a sexual way.  It all starts in the mind.

Then, make an effort once again to enjoy him.  It sounds like you're aloof.  Enjoy the man God gave you.  Don't give up.  

If you end up divorced down the road, you'll just end up with the same problem with someone else!!!  It all starts with your thought life.  Your mind is the "engine" NOT the "caboose".  Your circumstances (husband) does not dictate your emotions!  Have some accountability in this matter!!!

Answer 11

And your question is what? Or did you just need to get that out here?

Buy him a mask or put a big grocery bag over his head.

Answer 12

Sounds like your in love with your hand and fingers or your just using them as a tool for your enjoyment and when your done, you wash them off and go back to what your doing. Also, it sounds like you have too much free time on your hands and need to find something more constructive than playing with yourself. Give your husband a chance.

Answer 13

What do you fantasize about that is different from your husband?  Is there a way to bridge the gap either through erotic literature or role-playing that can make him that mystery lover you need?

Answer 14

where is the question