I have lost my s*x drive?

Question

Every since I got pregnant and had my third I lost my s*x drive and the doctors tell me there is nothing I can do about it!! I feel bad for my husband. I do it but don't enjoy it. what do I do? My husband thinks it's him, I keep telling him it's not

Answer 1

just keep giving him BJ's! You don't want him straying off!

Answer 2

Do you ever feel aroused at all? Or is that you are just never in the mood? Also are you in you in the same physical shape as you were before? if your self-esteem is low then that can add to the situation, because is you are not comfortable with your body that doesn't allow you open up to your husband. Maybe working out could help you out. Not that you need it, but that might help.

Answer 3

Talk to your doctor.  There are medical treatments.  

This is not abnormal.  

Every situation is different.

Answer 4

Find a good chinese herbalist.  They can mix up some stuff that can work.  None of the over the counter stuff, they need to mix it up.  It tastes like sh*t, but it can work.  Been there and done that.

Answer 5

The first thing you need to do is figure out why your s*x drive is low and try to help get it back.  I was in your situation and it's not fun without being horny and feeling in the mood when needed.  I also felt like my orgasms (if I would even get one) were really weak.  Probably because of my s*x drive.

However, I tried exercising and dieting but nothing seemed to be working.  I thought I was screwed.  I then found something just as amazing as the vibrator.

My friend at work told me about this stuff she took to raise her s*x drive.  It was a natural herbal supplement and was I lucky to of found it.  Theres no side effects and the s*x drive is just tremendous along with orgasms that are blasting.  The stuff is called Hersolution pills.  At the time I saved money on them at herenhancement.com

What I did was tried out for 3 months and that was really it.  I found taking them every other day or so was the best to stretch it out. After the months were up, I was back to normal with a beating s*x drive and my o****m strength in increased so much.  

Well good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Well, try not to worry about it. That kills everything. I've heard it's common after babies.

All you can do is try to meet your husbands needs. And remember HE needs YOU ok. Whether you're "on board" or not, try to make yourself available for his sake. And you never know, it may come back, over time. just look at his smiling face everytime he asks you.....

Answer 7

i think we do lose our drive at some point in our life.  i don't know why, but so have i until i read the book to h**l with h**l which my friend loaned me.  she bought it at b and n dot com on line.  in there is a lot of good information that may help , it did me.  if nothing else, it will help you deal with even if you can't change it.  it's important to read because after-wards, you may either regain your desire or at least some of it.  good luck and get the book

Answer 8

That happened to me after my third too. Lost drive and ability to o****m (which really pissed me off...lol) What worked for me was really taking time to relax and have sexual thoughts. Reading erotica worked wonders. After a few months I was back to my old, wild self. Get your mind there, your body will follow. Good luck :)

Answer 9

there are testosterone treatments.  herbal items that really do work. look into it

Answer 10

As the mother of 3 children, I can understand what you are talking about. In the course of life, s*x was always readily available and fun, but now you have 3 children to deal with first. This is where love comes in and takes over, you will get it back in time, it sounds like he may be an understanding guy.

You can do little things to help, you need to dedicate your room to you two, not the family. When we go to our room, our children have learned that it's our quiet time, no matter what time it is. We try to keep our room private. The whole emptying your mind is something else, I am still working on that.  

Answer 11

Change your environment and you will add new spice in your life.

My wife and purchased our first home for $47.500.00. I put $23,000.00 down. My mortgage was $241.00 a month. Shortly after we moved in I noticed that our love making in bed began to wither. The first year we argued so much that it infected us and she no longer was turned on anymore in the bed and s*x was useless.

I immediately realized that the house was not going to be our dream home. She really didn't like the house even though, we did when first entered it.

Two years later I sold the house for $60,000.00 and we moved to Columbus, GA.

We moved into an apartment with a nice pool it's called Brittwood Apartments in Columbus, GA a real nice place with pool parties, Beer, BBQ and we had a blast. Our s*x life picked up rapidly and we gained what was lost. Was it the house? I assume it was.

We are saving up to buy the home of our dreams and this will be the last time I ever buy a house. I will die there and her and I know we have to make sure it's right from the start so that we do not end up losing our s*x drive.

The change of environment gave us a new outlook and that oulook on life & living helped us restore our s*x life.  From a $241.00 mortgage to a $728.00 rent . You would think how in the h**l did that help my s*x life...it did.

You make the call!

Answer 12

Don't accept this. It is NOT inevitable. Are you breastfeeding? That can suppress your libido. So can antidepressants. First of all, find a doctor that takes this seriously, because there are testosterone creams that can help. Look for help, and don't stop until you find it.

Answer 13

Are you on any kind of anti depressants?  I ask because that can kill it too.  You should start working out.  Exercise gives you endorphins and will make you feel great about your body. When all else fails, HAVE A DRINK OR 2:)